Making a girl jealous can be one of the best things you can do as a single man or even if you’re in a relationship. Too much jealousy can cause bad blood and potentially ruin a good thing. But just the right amount… can be an incredible attraction booster.
One of the most powerful seduction techniques you can use.
Conventional wisdom says that jealousy is a bad thing, and it is… for you. But if you’re a man, you can leverage your girlfriend’s jealousy to make her more attracted to you.
This is because making a woman jealous flips the script. Instead of you chasing her, which is what most men do, she will be chasing you, putting you in the driver’s seat of the relationship.
This will deepen her attraction to you since you’ll be separating yourself from the average man. A jealous girl will be afraid of losing you, so they’ll work that much harder to make you happy and ensure that you don’t dump them.
Here are some ways you can make a girl jealous and chase you. Be careful, however, as some clingy or mentally unstable women will not react well to these techniques. If your girlfriend is the kind of person who will set your car on fire if you displease her, you may not want to try any of this on her.
1. Spend time with other women and make sure your girl knows it
Get you some options brah.
Pickup artists use the term “preselection” to describe one of the attraction triggers for women. In short, women want men who are wanted by other women, since that signals to women that the man is sexually desirable.
The last thing a woman wants is a man who is disliked or ignored by other women, since in her mind, that makes him a loser. This is why, for example, some men will bring a female friend when they go out to bars looking for girls, since the female friend will “proof” them to other women (a true alpha does this).
You can use this to your advantage by spending time with other women in such a way that your girl knows about it. These women can be your friends, your colleagues, or even your relatives: it doesn’t matter, though if they’re young and attractive, that definitely helps. Post pictures of yourself with them on your social media profiles having fun and this will flip a switch in your girlfriend, making her want to please you more.
Another method in this vein is to sing the praises of another girl in your life. This will make your girlfriend wonder why you’re being so nice to this other woman and work harder to keep you in her hands. You should use this sparingly, however, because if you praise another girl too much, your girlfriend may just assume that you’re not attracted to her anymore.
2. Start coming home later than usual
Do things on your terms, not hers.
If you’re known for coming home from work at a certain time, start showing up later, or leaving on your own after you get home without telling your girlfriend or wife where you’re going. Her head will be spinning wondering what you’re doing, even if it’s totally innocuous.
Obviously, this tip only works if you have a live-in girlfriend or you’re married. Additionally, clingier girls—or girls with borderline personality disorder—may have their stalker programming activated by this move. For example, an ex-girlfriend of mine once accused me of “neglecting” her because I arrived home twenty minutes later than usual because I had gone to get gas for my car.
3. Don’t immediately answer her calls or texts
Replying quickly means… you a bitch.
If your girl sends you a message, don’t respond immediately, but make her wait a while. In the case of messaging apps that show read receipts (such as Facebook or WhatsApp), don’t even look at her messages. This will get her wondering as to what you’re doing and also signal that you’re a busy man who can’t drop everything to answer her every dumb text.
To enhance the effect of this, if you’re using Facebook, WhatsApp, or another messaging program where other users can see when you’re online, talk to other people on there while ignoring your girl. This will make her wonder why you’re not paying attention to her.
4. Lock your phone
Lock your damn phone at all times.
This is generally a good idea anyway, since having your phone unlocked makes it easy for would-be thieves to break into it. Install a fingerprint or PIN code on your phone so she can’t swipe it and dig through it when you’re sleeping or in the bathroom. She’ll wonder what you’re hiding on it, and even if you aren’t hiding anything, her mind will speed off in all kinds of jealous directions.
5. Leave a female item of clothing or other accessory around your place
Leave clues around your place.
A discarded pair of panties, earring, hairbrush, or other feminine item will show that you’ve got another woman spending time at your house or apartment.
For this to work, you’ll need to put the item in a place that she’ll see it, but also where a woman would plausibly leave such an item. For example, leaving an earring on your bathroom sink or nightstand is ideal. You could also heighten the jealousy by planting items that suggest sex, such as tossing used condoms in your bathroom’s trash can.
6. Talk to other girls in a venue in front of her
Show her your worth.
If you’re talking to a girl at a bar or other locale and she’s not that interested (or a cockblock is ruining your game), disengage and chat up other girls around you. If you get a positive reaction from those girls, the first girl you spoke to will be much more interested in you when you come back to her. Make sure she sees you talking to other more attractive women though.
Easiest way to flirt without your girl knowing is by using a PUA IOI, it works amazingly well in bars and clubs. Also learn how to read female body language so you can flirt with the girls who are ready to bang. Get yourself a good wingman to speed things up.
7. Play hot-and-cold with your girlfriend
Keep her guessing.
This is a tactic used by women with borderline personality disorder: getting men hooked through constant love-bombing and great sex, then strategically withdrawing both to get his head spinning.
To make it work for you, stop talking to your girl and ignore her for a little while before reentering her life. This works best if, just prior to disengaging, you have a strong, passionate relationship. If you were being distant beforehand, ghosting her may result in her moving on.
8. Accomplish something on your own and make sure she knows it
Keep striving for more in your life.
Women love to monopolize a man’s time, so one way to get under their skin is to go off and do something important without telling her or soliciting her help, then patting yourself on the back for your accomplishments. Even if no other woman was involved—say, you completed this task alone or with other men—she’ll feel slighted that you didn’t try to involve her in whatever it was you did.
Similarly, women love to “tame” their men and get them to settle down. If you continue to excel at whatever it is you’re good at—say music or art or anything—this will make your girl want to compete for your attention, particularly if you could leverage your talents to attract other women.
9. When you break up with a girl, make sure she knows you’re having a good time without her
Get back to living your life.
The absolute worst way to handle a breakup is to get on social media and cry about how you’re depressed, lonely, and life isn’t worth living anymore. If your girlfriend dumps you, she’ll still be obsessively reading your online posts, and you don’t want to give her the impression that being dumped has hurt you. On the contrary: you want to show her that not only are you unaffected by her betrayal, you’re having the time of your life with her gone.
To this end, don’t post anything on social media that makes you look mopey. For that matter, don’t be triumphant about the end of your relationship, either. Instead, be zen about the breakup and move on. Have fun with your friends and post the pics on social media, dive into a project that you’ve been putting off, and generally keep your mind off the breakup. She’ll be able to see that you don’t need her and this will make her have second thoughts about breaking off the relationship.
10. Cheat on her with her friends or people she knows (RISKY)
This is very risky and not advisable!
This is an extremely risky and dangerous option. It’s also one that is morally unpalatable to a lot of men. However, there’s no denying that it works on a certain type of girl. If you seduce one of your girlfriend’s friends or acquaintances, this will drive some women absolutely insane with jealousy.
Keep in mind that this is a high-risk, high-reward strategy, with numerous ways that it could go wrong. If your seduction fails, the girl you hit on might tell your girlfriend. Your girlfriend might decide to dump you altogether or go psycho stalker if you betray her in this fashion. Not only that, by doing this, you’ll be introducing a ton of drama into your social circles, possibly burning bridges with other friends of yours in the process.
It’s ultimately up to you if cheating on your girlfriend is something you want to do. When you take an action like this, you need to be aware of the grave consequences if it goes wrong.
The Bottom Line
Jealousy is a powerful emotion in women, and one that you can invoke easily and to your advantage. In a world in which men usually chase women and lavish them with attention in hopes of getting laid, reversing the roles gives you a power that few men ever hold. There’s something amazing about having a woman chasing after you, wanting to please you, get your attention, and make you happy.
That said, you should be careful using the techniques in this article. Jealousy is a useful tool when it comes to seduction and relationships, but it can easily backfire. Assess your own situation and think carefully about what tactics you want to use with your woman, when to use them, and how to deal with potential fallout.
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