Comments on: Don’t Demand: The first rule of text game

By: Rachie

Rachie — Tue, 18 Sep 2012 22:51:29 +0000

Hey hey, you you, please read it
So… I really could use some help here. I met this girl last month I think and she was nice and all and I didn’t see a good reason for not going after her. So, she was organizing a surprise party for a friend of mine and she wanted to invite me and asked me to ask other people as well.
Much happened since then, I didn’t invest much even tho’ she seemed to be interested after our first talk. I had my own problems to deal with but lately I noticed I should turn serious mode on. I asked her for a date but then I noticed I was thrown on the “text buddy zone”. I searched around web, came to this site and some others ’till I finnaly got the knowledge necessary to get out of the buddy zone. After I stopped sending her any texts, made a kick-ass re-entrance in her cellphone with very good messages, jokes and rapport and called her out again, she said yes.

Ok, so untill now it seems like I got in and I don’t seem to need that much help. Here comes the problem:
I’m a bad student. I’m not terrible but I used to be better. And as any bad student I didn’t know there were bimestral tests coming… (in my school that’s serious business). Basically, our I-suppose-it’s-a-date was going to happen later, much latter. I didn’t fight against, cause that would make me look needy. I just told her to tell me when she would be free so that I could be sure I would be there (I’m not really that busy). Everything seemed fine enough… Until today. I saw some posts about me having to keep the shit going till day 2, and for me that was ok. It has been only 2 days that we marked the date, I sent her a message just now and everything went fine… Then she talked about the date.
No, she did not cancel it. She really wants to go see the movie.
But she said she wanted to bring more people.
I was really lost there, but I knew I couldn’t show to be needy, so I said something like “Oh that sounds fine, just remember to always tell me who you are gonna call to go with us before. The more the better, right?”

Yeaaah… Did I do it right? I simply have to know. What was my mistake? It won’t be a great loss if one girl don’t feel that atracted to me… But I still don’t wanna lose. I love this kind of game. I want to win.

[obs: I’m not from US, UK, Canada or Australia. I’m sorry if you couldn’t understand my english in any point. ]

By: VJ

VJ — Mon, 23 Jul 2012 23:08:04 +0000

Hiya haley,
I met this girl today, we exchanged numbers, I texted her this 20 mins laster “this is a VIP number, you must store with care!”. And she later replied “haha yeah! will do :D”, I then after a few hours texted this “Yup, just finished an intense game of rugby, my team lost obviously…Twas random bumping into you on a monday morning, you were definitley the second most interesting person I spoke to today… VJ from picadilly”
Was it a bad context to send that? Was it too soon? I dnnno!

By: Hayley Quinn

Hayley Quinn — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 03:04:43 +0000

In reply to thom Cat. I would have actually text her the next day. 'This reminded me of you' texts are great for re-establishing contact if you've been out of touch, but I'd advise using them as 'ping' messages after you haven't heard from her in a while. Interactions are so much about momentum so as long as you keep the text ratio 1:1 then it's sometimes good not to wait a few days before you get in touch; play it too cool and she may lose interest. If I was you I'd give her a few more days then give her a ring. If she doesn't pick up don't leave a voicemail but you could leave a text instead (these are harder to ignore than phone calls). If you still get nothing don't give up completely, just give her a whole lot of vacuum, then try to re-engage her a week or two later with a ping text. good luck x

By: thom Cat

thom Cat — Tue, 09 Aug 2011 15:38:46 +0000

I met a girl, K closed, got her home safely. So I texted her a couple of days later with a "i just saw something that reminded me of you!" and No reply :(. How long should I wait. should I call?

By: Hayley Quinn

Hayley Quinn — Sat, 08 Jan 2011 12:54:16 +0000

In reply to Godfather10. Definitely its ok to go back, her lack of a response is only a big deal/ negative if you decide it is. Be cool about it, nonchalant, and whilst you don't want to make a bee line for her be non reactive and cool around the girl. Also when you're in the pub play a meta game appear sociable, interesting, friendly warm with everyone else you engage and she'll probably regret not replying. Good luck :-)

By: Godfather10

Godfather10 — Sat, 08 Jan 2011 10:26:04 +0000

O dear! reading your post i have screwed up. i gave this girl my number who worked in a pub which was my bday so feel she was pressured to take. screwed up by being demanding too soon trying for a date! school boy error i know. hadnt a reply for two days but tried a one off text by taking in what you have said and adding what ive been doing and adding myself at the end as "bday boy godfather"
if i hear back happy days if not then i know where the mistake was made. question is i can still go in the pub even rejected right or no reply? im not fussed, plenty more girls in there haha

By: Hayley Quinn

Hayley Quinn — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 15:49:13 +0000

In reply to Solara. Definitely- we don't discriminate and personally I'd love to work with a woman :-)

By: Solara

Solara — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 13:33:22 +0000

Hey,
Are lesbians/bisexuals welcome to the Bootcamps?

By: Hayley Quinn

Hayley Quinn — Wed, 10 Nov 2010 07:10:07 +0000

I'd say if she noticed you looking at her it's best to call it out and vocalise that. Her noticing you, noticing her, without you saying anything doesn't make you appear very confident.

It's also totally natural if you bumped into her to drop her a little text a little later that day saying, "Hey, I think we bumped into each other outside Starbucks today. I was in a huge rush, but next time let's go grab a coffee. How's your day been anyway"

If you're feeling cocky you could even add:

"Hey, I think we bumped into each other outside Starbucks today. I was in a huge rush, but next time let's go grab a coffee. How's your day been anyway (apart from the obvious highlight of seeing me)"

I'd say text soon though (within hours)- seeing someone gives great plausible deniability for getting in touch.

By: johnny

johnny — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 15:05:21 +0000

any 'golden timing' to observe once i got opportunity to text?

bump into my crush while traveling to another place, it was a short encounter as we are in opposite direction, din stop to talk or wave, but she sorta notice me