Mastery With Women and Dating
Having the ability to attract women without saying a word doesn’t mean you have any of the following:
Basically, you can be a “normal” guy of average height, looks and build… yet these techniques will still work to build attraction with women without saying anything. [Read more…]
She’s hot right? Well you can have her if you want.
Have you ever walked down the street minding your own business, just on your lunch break from work and all of a sudden noticed a stunningly beautiful woman walk right past you.
As she does you just see every man looking at her… guys in their cars honking and other women just looking at her with pure jealousy?
The same applies to clubs, there’s always a ridiculously hot girl that is on the top VIP table with the rich guys just having an amazing time because her drinks and evening is all paid for.
But let me ask you another question. [Read more…]
While some men are happy to find ‘the one’ and settle down with a life of monogamy
stretching out before them, others remain resolute bachelors and delight in the thrill of
the chase. Some men take playing the field to a whole new level. The confidence and
magnetism of the men in this list has helped them seduce thousands of women into sharing
their bed. Of course, fame, power and riches can help things along quite a bit, too.
The following list is comprised of men who, if they kept track of their nocturnal conquests
with the traditional notches carved into their bed posts, would soon be sleeping amongst
matchwood.
Every fisherman exaggerates his catch, but even if these gents were dividing their tally by
five their scores would still be enviably substantial. They must be drinking a hell of a lot of
energy drinks.
Sexploits: 2,000 easy rides
Kim Basinger said of Nicholson: “He is crazy! I haven`t met anyone so obsessed with sex like
him!” The veteran actor would agree that that’s a fair summing up of his sexual proficiency.
When asked how many children he has fathered, he responded to the interviewer: “There
could be 9,000 for all I know – I used to live so freely. Women are never enough for me.
There were days when I used to go to bed with four or more. But none of them can take
away my freedom. Until the end of my days I’ll remain a bachelor!”
Nicholson’s youthful excesses are well documented. “I’ve slept with all women, I’ve tried
every single drug and all kinds of liquor!” he has said. The womanizing never got in the way
of his stellar Hollywood career, though, as he’s won 3 Oscars and been nominated 12 times.
The 73 year-old has admitted that he is starting to wind down now and feels a little
conspicuous hitting on young women. He also apparently only uses Viagra when he’s
with more than one lucky lady. And there are still quite a number of women queuing
up for Nicholson’s attentions: “Happily, when it comes to girls hitting on me, I’m not
undernourished.”
Sexploits: 2,000–5,000 bunnies bedded
Surely the most famous of today’s lady-killers, Playboy entrepreneur Hugh Hefner is
probably the most unsurprising entry in this list. An accurate figure for the number of his
sexual conquests is difficult to nail down, but estimates range from 2,000 to as much as
5,000, and not just women either – Hefner freely admits to having bisexual liaisons.
Hugh Hefner opened his account at an unexpectedly late age of 22, but since he launched
the first issue of Playboy in 1953, with Marilyn Monroe’s image gracing the front cover, he
hasn’t looked back.
Even today and well into his 80s, he is rumored to keep a bowl of Viagra next to his (well-
used) bed and even provide them for his guests. He still has orgies twice a week with various
playmates, too: “I have slept with thousands of women, and they all still like me.”
Sexploits: 3,000 señoritas serenaded and then some
Spanish crooner Julio Iglesias is known for his love of the ladies almost as much as his
romantic music. It is oft-reported that Iglesias has made sweet, sweet love to more than
3,000 swooning women, a figure that the singer himself doesn’t contradict: “That probably
was until 1976,” he said, “so they didn’t count the other women.”
The Iberian Romeo started early, too: “I love the girls like crazy, really, like crazy, since I was
4 years old.” Well, his dad was a gynecologist so it must run in family.
For Iglesias, sex is just as natural and commonplace as the red wine he loves: “I am intensely erotic.
For me, sex is as vital as sleep. I do it through desire, through necessity, but always
with joy. I am a lover for sure. I love to be loved.”
Sexploits: 4,000-5,000 porn partners poked
Over an amazingly successful career that has spanned decades, porn star Ron Jeremy has
sexed his way through thousands upon thousands of partners. The ‘hedgehog’ has starred
in more than 2,000 skin flicks and is quite possibly the most famous male porn star ever
to have thrust himself into the limelight. If there was ever to be a king of porn it would be
Jeremy, and if accounts of encounters with him are to be believed, he’s a rather nice fellow
to boot.
He makes up for his short stature, chubby physique and hirsute frame with a penis that
measures almost 10 inches long and a legendary sexual stamina (he once had sex with
fourteen different women in four hours). When asked about his and Gene Simmons’ (entry
number 6) conquests he said:
“We both say between four and five thousand, which is true. But he’s a rock star – they’re
doing him because they like him. They’re doing me because it’s a paycheck. Or, the other
line is, he gets girls that look like his Playboy playmate wife, and when I’m not making
movies, I get girls that look like Gene Simmons.”
Sexploits: 4,600 crazy, crazy nights
He’s sold over 100 million records, never been married, and counts Cher and Diana Ross
among his tally. He claims that none of his partners have ever complained, even when he
tells them he wants to bed their friends or relatives.
“I have not heard a complaint. That’s because I am straight with them. I don’t lie, like most
men do. I will tell a girl I want her and desire her, but I’ll tell her straight, ‘I want your sister
and your mommy as well’.”
It must be his famously prehensile tongue: “It’s ironic that I’m mostly known for my tongue
which is a hideous thing. But it’s every girl’s best friend – no batteries required.”
Rivaling Ron Jeremy, the KISS frontman alleges to have had fornicated with an estimated
4,600 women (many of those while he was with girlfriend Shannon Tweed, who doesn’t
seem to mind). Apart from an insatiable sexual appetite, Simmons has some home-grown
philosophy behind his enthusiasm for the ladies:
“The male species manufactures billions of sperm – it’s our duty to do what the Old
Testament says, which is ‘Spread Thy Seed’.
“The only problem with women is that they think all those sperm we make is just for them.
But the honest truth is it’s not. I would urge all guys to stop lying to women.”
Sexploits: 5,000 hot shots
You’d have thought that being an attractive Hollywood movie star with a famous family,
huge properties and a substantial bank balance would be sufficient to bring enough women
to any man’s door to satisfy his loins. But not Charlie Sheen. Sheen was famously named
in the Heidi Fleiss Hollywood prostitution scandal as one of her most regular clients. He
certainly has a soft-spot for the ladies – in fact it seems like he cannot get enough of them,
and his reputation as a serial philanderer seems well deserved. Aside from frequenting
ladies of the night, it is alleged that he heavily indulges in internet porn (according to ex-
wife Denise Richards – they split after he allegedly told her she was among the hottest 1,000
women he had slept with) and still manages to make headlines with his raucous hotel-based
antics.
Sexploits: 8,000 guests checked out (and more)
“Who is this Umberto Billo?” I hear you cry. Well, he is an Italian so mysterious it’s hard to
even track down a photograph of this elusive Casanova. Uniquely for this list he isn’t rich
or famous but simply a hotel porter at the Venetian Hotel in Las Vegas. Here’s what men’s
magazine Maxim had to say about him: “Despite lacking fame, wealth, and U.S. citizenship,
this Italian hotel porter insists he’s made around 8,000 women happy sometimes
entertaining four tourists a night. Umberto, whose talents came to worldwide attention
when he appeared on the British TV show Eurotrash, claims he inspired tremendous ‘brand
loyalty.’ An American businesswoman commented: “I must have spent thousands in the
hotel because of him!”
The man himself added, “They crossed oceans to see me.” But not everything was rosy
for the permanently-tired porter as he was sacked for being too tired to carry the guests’
luggage. He claimed that he also had ‘an insatiable wife.’ No wonder he was tired!
Sexploits: 12,000 bonnies banged
He’s bedded some of the most desirable women in Hollywood: Natalie Wood, Brigitte
Bardot, Jane Fonda, Joan Collins, Carly Simon (Beatty is alleged to partly be the subject of
Simon’s song You’re so Vain), Faye Dunaway, Leslie Caron, Candace Bergan, Isabelle Adjani,
Julie Christie and Madonna to name a handful. But that list is, ladies and gentlemen, merely
the tip of the iceberg.
In Peter Biskind’s biography of actor Warren Beatty, the acclaimed Hollywood writer
estimates that the famous lothario has achieved a jaw-dropping 12,775 sexual
conquests: “Using simple arithmetic… 12,775 women, give or take, a figure that does not
include daytime quickies, drive-bys, casual gropings, stolen kisses and so on.”
Elizabeth Taylor commented of Beatty’s performance between the sheets: “Out of 10, I’d
give him 15.” Joan Collins allegedly “stumbled exhausted out of bed after a steamy session
with Beatty exclaiming: “I don’t think I can last much longer. He never stops – it must be all
those vitamins he takes.”
Sexploits: 20,000 slam dunks
Wilt Chamberlain’s 1991 autobiography, A View from Above, goes some way to revealing
the extent of the basketball star’s sex drive. A cool 20,000 women shared Chamberlain’s
(extra long) bed at one time or another. As Seymour Goldberg puts it: “Some people collect
stamps; Wilt collected women.”
If Chamberlain did indeed bed that many lucky ladies, he certainly had the tool for the job.
Friends of the man asserted that he possessed an 11 inch member that would sometimes
pop out of his shorts during games.
Acknowledged as one of the greatest players in the history of the sport (he once scored 100
points in a single game), Chamberlain defended his astounding sexual statistics, saying that
he never bedded a married woman, and added: “I was just doing what was natural—chasing
good-looking ladies, whoever they were and wherever they were available”
Chamberlain died of congestive heart failure on October 12, 1999 in California.
Sexploits: 35,000 hot latinas
The ex-Cuban leader’s bedroom habits came to light in a 2008 documentary by Ian
Halperin. In it, a former official close to the Marxist politician claims that he has slept with
a staggering 35,000 women. Apparently, a ‘special security team’ would be assigned to
Havana’s beaches each day to ‘recruit’ the most attractive women.
“He slept with at least two women a day for more than four decades – one for lunch and
one for supper. Sometimes he even ordered one for breakfast.”
Castro had been in power since the 1959 overthrow of dictator Fulgencio Batista’s
government, only retiring in 2010 due to ill-health. Halperin’s source – a man named Ramon
– gives the reason for his longevity: “I don’t think he would have stayed on as long as he
did if not for all the incredible women he had access to as president.” Bedding incredible
women is certainly one of the better job bonuses.
Famously, the US has tried hard to get rid of him, but Castro has outlasted every president
that had him in their sights.
The bottom line is this, fame and fortune is unsurprisingly what a woman looks for in a man.
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The How and the Why…
Hey guys, last time I spoke about ditching your best dance moves, tricks and tactics in favour of enjoying the music and generating a positive vibe, something that most guys seem to forget the second they enter a nightclub. Just by enjoying yourself regardless of your dancing ability you may have noticed that you were getting much more positive female attention than you may have otherwise; this is due to the relief that girls experience when they are in the presence of a man that is not entirely focussed on finding out the colour of their underwear, and this comfort that is immediately established will cause the women to be drawn away from the wandering hands of other guys and congregate around you. This ability to lose inhibitions on the dance floor is vital, and a prerequisite of what I am going to take you through in this post, without it, although still useful, the structure I teach will not be as effective without the ability to generate this initial comfort, as the IOI’s you receive form the first and most important stage of dance floor game.
Phase 1: Social Proof Steps
Many PUA’s appear to view dance floor game and the rest of club game as separate entities, each with their own rules to follow. I agree with this to a certain extent, largely you should be escalating much more quickly on the dance floor than you might otherwise and talking should be kept at an absolute minimum. However, receiving more positive attention on the dance floor has exactly the same effect as it would in any other social environment, without getting too psychological, it is common knowledge that women take cues regarding male attractiveness from other women, therefore, when women are seen dancing near you, and giving you IOI’s your attractiveness will skyrocket making the rest of the steps that much easier. Additionally, many guys fear beginning the interaction with a girl on the dance floor, and are not quite sure of the best way to get her attention, to start dancing or to escalate from there. All of this is avoided by social proofing the dance floor first, when the girl you want is already looking at you, then those awkward first moments are avoided and you can move to the next step. This step is achieved simply by fully immersing yourself in the music as I stated in my last post, and not focussing on getting one particular girl, it should suit your personality (as an introvert, I prefer to keep it low key) and make sure that you are doing it for enjoyment and in no way seeking approval from anyone else.
Phase 2: Forcing the IOI
When you see the girl you want, and have built up social proof by drawing people in to your positive vibe, getting girls looking at you, with no investment on your part, (it’s not like you’re doing backflips to get attention), all you have to do is select your girl and IMMEDIATELY force an IOI from her, this could be by pointing at her, sticking your tongue out, anything that clearly acknowledges her from all of the other girls dancing close to you. This is important as all of the attention that you have gained is extended to her. Next, with the big smile you have from enjoying your dance floor experience, you hold out your hand for her to take, and all of that attention is now working in your favour to put pressure on the girl to dance with you (rather than pressure to avoid being seen dancing with a low value guy), then spin her in to you, ready for the next step.
Phase 3: Push-Pull
Another PUA term that is used most to describe emotionally distancing yourself from a woman, creating more space to pull her back in; in dance floor game, you can do this physically, by literally pushing her away from you then pulling her closer. This is the key to escalating quickly, when done right, after every time you push her away, when you pull her in you can physically escalate, for example, you are holding one hand at this stage of dance floor game – push away – pull towards and take both hands- push away – pull towards and move one hand to the small of her back – push – pull and move your hands to her waist, and so on, as fast or as slow as you wish to escalate —Disclaimer— Some Calibration Required — the reason this works is best explained looking through the eyes of a woman; almost all of the guys she has danced with have no concept of pushing the girl away, so they keep pulling and pulling, making the girl feel more and more uncomfortable until they take root and remain planted on her waist until she forcefully removes them, after this, she learns that dancing with a guy will inevitably result in uncomfortably pushing them away, however, when you are the one selecting her, and pushing her away, she does not experience that discomfort, and you show that you are not getting off on her getting close to you, that you do not need physical contact from her to validate your existence as a man. With this comes the ability to escalate much faster, without it being a big deal.
The physical push pull is where salsa steps may be useful, however they do not need to be more complicated than a simple spin towards and away from you, and gently pushing and pulling her by her hands, as long as that physical distance is created, the effect will be largely the same.
Phase 4: The close
Now, after you have danced with a girl and been doing your push-pull for a little while, you can choose to use the pre-selection you got from her to force the IOI of another girl (phase 2) and move on/bring her in, you could also go back to building your social proof in phase 1, gaining even more momentum, or you may choose to go for a close.
The best part of using push pull on the dance floor to escalate is that it smoothly works towards any of these options, particularly to a close. If you do decide to go for a close, you want to increase eye contact as you do your push pull moves, and you want to gradually increase the length of time she is pulled into you and decrease the distance she is pushed away, making the dance more and more sexual as it progresses. Ideally you will be familiar with the music you are dancing to and you will know exactly when to go for the pull into a close, (a k-close for example) it will be a time where the music cuts out, or has a pronounced beat that emphasises your movement (I will get to this in a later post) but when you go for a close, you want to pull her in closer than you have been, maintain eye contact and gently place your hand on the side of her neck and guide her as you go in for the kiss. It is that simple, again, with calibration; you will know when the best time to do this is. Then, before or after the kiss, you can continue or take her by the hand and take her off the dance floor.
There you have it, a complete structure to dance floor domination. If you want to know how it works then just think about it from a girls point of view: she notices a guy getting loads of attention from other girls ‘out of the corner of her eye’ this popular guy then selects her from all of the girls he could have (typical chick flick formula) and instead of having an uncomfortable grinding marathon, this guy is different, he leads her and constantly is mixing sexual pull towards him with fun spins and other moves (just like the movies) and shows he knows what he is doing by escalating with purpose, then slowly the room fades away as your eyes lock on until it is just the two of you sharing this moment, then the kiss is the icing on the cake.
Go out and give girls the experience they want and let me know how you get on and remember to always show respect for the girls first and foremost.
Stephen :)
P.S. I have tried to be as thorough as possible, but if you have any questions just leave me a comment. For the guys that can’t quite lose themselves in the music, I will try to get some pictures or video of me demonstrating some moves I use for low key social proofing next time.
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I found myself lying in bed with a girl last night, with her back to me as she’s playing with songs on her lap top, and felt the familiar unpleasent feelings and thoughts. Should I go for it? Will she be down? Can I make it smooth? As well of course that sexual escalation anxiety. Thankfully I was able to get around it all but it made me realize just how many guys would fail here, and just so close! That’s when I decided this topic seriously needs to be discussed.
There are guys out there who are INCREDIBLE at getting women attracted to them and wanting to sleep with them, these men look like rockstars and on the surface seem like they get laid every other night. The sad fact is though that they don’t because they lack the final skillset, the one thing every guy at some point must master….the ability to sexually escalate.
Like all of game there are two components to being able to sexually escalate, outer game and inner game. The outer game is incredibly simple but the inner game is what causes 99% of the problems. I’ll list the key problems guys have with sexually escalating.
The outer game part consists of only two things.
1) Smoothly running up the kino escalation ladder so that every new advance is comfortable and natural
2) Pulling the trigger when the time is right
With number one it’s just a continuation of the kino you’re building off the bat. If you’re doing solid game your kino should have been escalating naturally throughout the pick up anyways, if not then you have a serious sticking point that needs to be addressed from the initial pick up. The second part just means a strong kino jump and having the ability to go “cave man”. When we pull the trigger we forget about “gaming”, the game is done and now it’s time to go for what we made happen.
Simple enough right? The format is pretty basic and down right easy, the real problems come from our heads. While the action of pulling the trigger is nothing, actually letting yourself do it is a whole different story. Here’s the three major inner game issues regarding sexual escalation and how you can get around each one.
1) Fear of failing after getting so close
When it’s time for end game and sexual escalation there’s been serious investment on your part for this girl. She doesn’t feel like just another set anymore since you had to work for her and spend time on her. After opening, hooking, building comfort, creating attraction, handling her friends, dealing with logistics, and getting either a number or kiss close, the last thing you want to do is mess it up now. The way to deal with this is by understanding two things. First she IS just another set and you have to be willing to fail just as if you were only opening. Even if it blows up in your face it doesn’t take away from the fact that you were able to get up to that point. By remembering this you’ll feel OK to fail and wont place so much value on the girl. Second make the mental shift from investing your time and energy into the girl to investing it into your game. By investing in the girl and the interaction you begin to put heavy emphasis on everything and begin fearing to mess up. By investing in developing your game you realize you HAVE to pull the trigger otherwise you’ll never learn and get better. Like Nike says “just do it”.
2) Assume sex
Think about this for a second. She’s in your bed and has shown obvious signs of attraction all night. I can almost guarentee she wants it to and it is true that women enjoy sex as much as men (if not more). Start thinking about what’s going through her mind, “Why wont he go for it already?” “I gave him enough signs, I hope he mans up” “God I’m horny! He better make a move!”. Obviously you don’t know what’s going through her mind but the point is you assume it since it’s most likely true and will lead you to taking action that’s best for the pick up. Understand that women enjoy sex as much as men do (if not more) but because of their social conditioning can not allow themselves to be responsible for doing anything that can lead the interaction to sex. She also EXPECTS you to sexually escalate since you’re a man, it’s normal and not low value to want sex…in fact if you don’t go for it she’s left to either think you don’t like her, you’re a wimp, or you’re gay. What this boils down to is that it’s on you, don’t let her down.
3) Immersion
To often are analytical game heads seriously get in the way at this stage. In the example I gave you about myself I remember clearly analyzing all the possible kino escalation moves I could do to try and make it smooth, but then remembered the idea of immersion and stopped all that. The idea is that it shouldn’t feel robotic or structured since it’d make it bad for you and probably feel creepy to the girl. Instead turn your mind off and let your body do what it’s naturally meant for. When we feel immersed we go on primal instinct and let the situation flow, allowing it to be as natural as possible and to fully enjoy it as well. To do this just relax yourself and notice the pleasant way she smells, how nice and smooth her skin feels. Allow yourself to fully enjoy the moment with her and fully accept your arousal and desires. Let your hands wander where they want as well as your lips. Basically stop worrying so much and simply enjoy yourself.
If you don’t fear messing up since you understand it’s just another skillset to practice, assume it’s on and feel confident escalating, and allow yourself to be immersed and enjoying it so your head doesn’t interfere, there’s really no reason why you shouldn’t be able to sexually escalate. Go out there and pull the trigger!
Hope this helps,
Psych
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Most men do the standard interview questions on a date: where are you from, what do you do, what hobbies do you have, favourite film, what do you read, do you have brothers and sisters.The fact is, the average beautiful woman has been on hundreds of first dates and has been approached by guys in bars and clubs thousands of times. She doesn’t want to answer these questions over and over. How do you stand out and make a killer first impression? Ask great questions!
Great questions fall into a number of categories. They all share a few traits:
Let’s get onto the questions:
1. Did you have an Imaginary friend when you were young?
2. Do you remember your first day at school?
This is a question that brings out strong emotions because it is something that they probably haven’t talked about for a long time, but that has strong emotions attached to it.
3. If you could wake up tomorrow anywhere in the world, where would it be?
This is another good question and replaces boring questions on this subject such as “do you like travel?” and “did you go on holiday this year”. Get her to describe the place vividly until she feels like she is there!
4. Are your friends mostly men or women?
This tells you something about their character and also gets them talking about people they care about and their friends.
5. What’s the one thing you can’t say no to?
This is a good way to find out something they really enjoy, it could be chocolate, it could be fresh orange juice. It should make their eyes light up. You can then describe how good it is to eat that chocolate or drink that fresh orange juice and watch how you can lead them into a desiring state.
6. What talents do you have that would surprise me?
This is a great question, and is a challenge. Early on in an interaction, they won’t feel any need to answer challenging questions. By the rapport stage, they will feel some pressure to respond to a question like this to prove themselves to you. Remember that she is likely to ask the same back to you, so have
something ready.
7. Have you been in love?
Focus on the time when they were actually in love, don’t ask what happened – this would focus on the break-up! You will make her want those feelings again, and since she is with a cool guy, she’ll probably be imagining them with you. This is a great one, for a number of reasons: First, it brings out the emotion and memories connected with love. Second, it gets onto the subject of relationships and so gets her to easily start to imagine a relationship with you.
Throw out some of these great questions and you’ll have the woman thinking you are the most interesting person she ever met. Not only that but you’ll have a deep connection, something you can never get with “so…..do you have any hobbies?”
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