{"id":4948,"date":"2012-05-22T20:46:46","date_gmt":"2012-05-22T20:46:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.puatraining.com\/?p=4948"},"modified":"2025-04-23T10:26:54","modified_gmt":"2025-04-23T10:26:54","slug":"simple-things-you-must-do-to-get-over-approach-anxiety","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.puatraining.com\/simple-things-you-must-do-to-get-over-approach-anxiety\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Simple Things You Must Do To Get Over Approach Anxiety"},"content":{"rendered":"
The route cause of your approach anxiety.<\/p><\/div>\n
Approach anxiety is a killer.<\/p>\n
In fact more PUA\u2019s are killed each year as a result of this terrible disease than any other… OK I\u2019m joking, but it does suck and is a very serious crippling issue.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s the single biggest problem every guy has and can be the defining factor that will pretty much destroy your chances of getting good with women, if you don\u2019t put a stop to it that is.<\/p>\n
What is approach anxiety exactly?<\/strong><\/p>\n Approach anxiety is a fear of approaching women you are attracted too. It stops you talking to women<\/a> by filling your mind with excuses, extreme levels of fear and pointless chatter.<\/p>\n Now before I get into the specifics of how you can work on getting rid of it<\/a><\/strong>, I first want to stress a few things that guys have a hard time believing for some reason.<\/p>\n Right then, now we\u2019ve cleared that up let\u2019s move onto the good stuff.<\/p>\n Here are some simple but very effective things you must do if you ever want to get over approach anxiety.<\/p>\n A term coined in the PUA community, throw away sets are women on their own or in groups<\/a> that are used purely to get in \u201cstate\u201d or in the groove and boost your confidence instantly.<\/p>\n The next time you go out approach girls you aren\u2019t interested in sexually and just use them for banter, try and keep a conversation flowing and then drop them once you feel comfortable.<\/p>\n You can do this with women on the street, shop assistants, waitresses… any girl really.<\/p>\n Approach at least 5 new girls until you feel as though any anxiety that was there is now gone, you should feel happy and energised.<\/p>\n Unfortunately you can\u2019t approach just the one girl and BAM your approach anxiety is gone, it just doesn\u2019t work like that dude.<\/p>\n This means that every day is a new day for approaching chicks and keeping the fear of approaching under control. The longer you leave it between the last approach, the harder it will be on the next approach.<\/p>\n A good thing to do also is, keep track of your progress and see how many girls you can actually approach in 1 week, 30 days or even a full year.<\/p>\n Think about it for a second, if you approached 2 girls every day for 1 month do you think that your fears of approaching would be very low? Absolutely.<\/p>\n Your wingman is your partner in crime and he will get you out of tricky situations, but another way to use your wingman is to strike a bet with him and risk some of your hard earned money.<\/p>\n Bet him that if you don\u2019t approach a certain number of girls within the next hour you will have to pay him $100.<\/p>\n The trick is you have to get the money out and give it to him on the spot, otherwise it won\u2019t mean anything if you just say it.<\/p>\n If you don\u2019t care about money, give them something you value, which holds emotion behind it… that way you will DEFINITELY follow through.<\/p>\n IMPORTANT:<\/strong><\/span> Oh by the way, try and find a wingman who is doing something that you want to do already. In this case it\u2019s actually approaching women. If they have done it, then they can help you do the same.<\/p>\n Building your confidence<\/a> naturally on a daily basis requires dedication, but there are several ways in which you can do it.<\/p>\n The one thing you have to remember though is, confidence is not something you wish for or are granted, it comes from pushing your comfort zone, momentum and challenging yourself regularly.<\/p>\n Although you will feel a surge of confidence<\/a> when you finish talking to one girl, that will slowly diminish throughout the evening, so you have to keep topping it up by speaking to new girls.<\/p>\n Ok, so some guys will turn their noses up at hypnosis or affirmations, because they definitely fall under the \u201ccrazy\u201d category. However, if you are a suggestible person, meaning you are easily lead and open to direction subconsciously, hypnosis<\/a> and affirmations will work amazingly well for you.<\/p>\n Here are some ways you can use both:<\/p>\n You\u2019ve heard of the 3 second rule which Mystery<\/a> came out with right? It\u2019s a great rule and it can work if you apply it to the right areas, however it\u2019s better to come up with your own set of rules.<\/p>\n Rules create habits and habits create momentum in your life, once you\u2019re in full swing with approaching, the rest is easy.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s some cool guidelines for you to follow:<\/p>\n You get the idea.<\/p>\n State shifting is a great way to instantly get yourself in the mood and more importantly get some balls! It\u2019s a term used in NLP and refers to using an anchor (a part of your body) to connect to an emotion (great feeling you\u2019re having at the time).<\/p>\n The more you do this, the easier it will be to trigger that state on demand.<\/p>\n So the next time you\u2019re feeling a rush of confidence because you\u2019ve just gotten the number of a smoking hot chick, push your thumb and forefinger together tightly and hold it for a few seconds. Repeat that technique when you feel that same rush of confidence<\/a> to reinforce the belief.<\/p>\n One of the quickest ways to get over approach anxiety and feel confident is using CBD oils<\/a>. They are quick, last 3-4 hours and are perfectly safe, so you don’t need to worry about very serious side effects.<\/p>\n So that is it folks! Very simple but damn good ways to help you get over that dreaded approach anxiety.<\/p>\n If you want to learn more advanced techniques for boosting your confidence with girls<\/a> and ridding yourself of the dreaded approach anxiety, I recommend you check this guy out<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n What\u2019s the best way you\u2019ve found to get over this fear?<\/em><\/p>\n You should also read:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n
\n
\n
Throw away sets<\/h2>\n
Daily momentum<\/h2>\n
Bet your wingman<\/h2>\n
Work on your confidence<\/h2>\n
Hypnosis and affirmations<\/h2>\n
\n
\n
\n
\n
Be strict with yourself (rules)<\/h2>\n
\n
State shifting<\/h2>\n
Natural Remedies<\/strong><\/h2>\n
\n