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\"Emotional

She’s a keeper.<\/p><\/div>\n

You know, it\u2019s a funny thing being a “PUA” or dating coach.<\/p>\n

People don\u2019t just expect you to be good with girls or teach others how to be good with girls. <\/p>\n

They also expect you to be sleeping with endless amounts of girls<\/strong>. So no doubt there were some gasps from guys at just reading the title of this post here.<\/p>\n

Back before I ever got good with girls, when I was a virgin, when I was looking at the pretty girls at school who were always totally out of my reach\u2026 I wasn\u2019t thinking of “banging”<\/em>\u00a0them, I was thinking romantic thoughts about relationships.<\/p>\n

Holding hands and looking lovingly into each others\u2019 eyes. Yep, all that pussy boy<\/em> stuff :)<\/p>\n

So for me big pain in my life that drove me to get really good with girls came from being lonely and unloved.<\/p>\n

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I hated being a virgin<\/strong><\/h2>\n
\"Young

The virgin!<\/p><\/div>\n

The idea that with every month that passed the other boys were getting more and more experience with girls and that one day I\u2019d have sex with a girl and not really know what I was doing because I hadn\u2019t done it before.<\/p>\n

But the lack of a relationship, of love from someone that wasn\u2019t my mum. That was what made me depressed<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So then fast forward a few years, around 2008\/9, I\u2019m already very good<\/strong> with girls.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m going out to clubs a few times a week, sleeping with girls from the clubs, and then I\u2019m working hard<\/a> on the business. I had lots of distractions, friends, and an enviable lifestyle.<\/p>\n

This was the kind of thing that I dreamed of from 15-25 years old. “Living like a rock star<\/em>” was always the goal, right?<\/p>\n

At times though, when there were no distractions, the Sunday or Monday after the party weekend, I felt a dissatisfaction.<\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t exactly what I wanted. I was sleeping with beautiful girls, but usually at 3am, usually when tipsy, and it was just sex, no real emotion involved.<\/p>\n

This isn’t going anywhere<\/strong><\/h2>\n
\"Pretty

not quite right.<\/p><\/div>\n

When I did have relationships in this period, I wasn\u2019t totally in to them. I usually knew immediately that it didn\u2019t have legs. The girl was nice or kind or smart, but usually I knew that she wasn\u2019t “The one<\/em>“.<\/p>\n

It was comfortable, but I still had that nagging feeling of “not quite right<\/em>“.<\/p>\n

To want to share things with someone and to give all you have, you want to feel that deep connection and love that you just can\u2019t feel for every girl.<\/p>\n

It has to be the right one.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Now I don\u2019t want to sound ungrateful for this period, I really enjoyed it.<\/p>\n

We had an amazing time and the experience is what allowed me to be such a good dating coach, and produce so many products that help guys all around the world.<\/p>\n

I met lifelong friends, and gained much needed experience. I also really honed in on what I want in a girl, which is an essential thing for a guy to know.<\/p>\n

I’m tired of partying<\/strong><\/h2>\n

I\u2019m 36 now, so of course I\u2019m not interested in going to clubs 7 nights a week.<\/p>\n

So in the past few years I\u2019ve met lots of girls through other means.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve also slowed down.<\/p>\n

\"Partying

My party hard days are over.<\/p><\/div>\n

I didn\u2019t want to sleep with girls the same night I met them anymore. I wanted to get to know them a bit better, build up some sexual tension, and sleep with them another night.<\/p>\n

This made the sex better, and made everything more exciting and interesting.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m kind of a philosopher and a deep thinker, so I like to play out scenarios in my mind and think about consequences, and also think about how I want my life to play out.<\/p>\n

I was thinking about a few possible scenarios for myself:<\/p>\n

Be a playboy forever<\/strong><\/h2>\n

This was basically continuing to have casual and semi-casual relationships and displaying alpha male traits<\/span><\/a>. I could date multiple girls, I could date one girl but she\u2019d know it wasn\u2019t going anywhere.<\/p>\n

One downside was the lack of connection with one person. So for example you want to go on a tour across America and see the Grand Canyon and Yellowstone Park and visit some major cities.<\/p>\n

Great\u2026 but it\u2019s best if you are with a girl who you really love, right?<\/p>\n

Taking some sexy bitch\u2026 it\u2019s kind of a waste, and most likely you are not going to be able to fill the long drives between places with conversation\u2026 if only because you are just not that into her aside from the physical.<\/p>\n

So the first problem is no deep connection<\/strong> with a girl.<\/p>\n

The second is family<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Most people want to have children. I got back in touch with my dad after I turned 29 and he never had more kids. I see other guys in my circle getting older and not being any closer to “settling down”.<\/p>\n

Although I know I can be a single 50 year old and still date 20 year old models, it just starts to get a little bit weird.<\/p>\n

The third issue is that it just gets old<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve slept with enough girls that I can imagine what they look like naked and what sex will be like. I am not going to have regrets about never going to X country and sleeping with the girls, or sleeping with that kind of girl, I\u2019ve done it all.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t even raise my pulse much these days.<\/p>\n

Get married and have a “normal” family<\/strong><\/h2>\n

This route always appealed to me.<\/p>\n

My mum wants grand kids, I definitely want children, and I definitely want my girl to be the one I have the deepest connection with.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to be a 45 and 55 year old “weird PUA” that is still gaming and working on their text openers or whatever bullshit.<\/p>\n

I had two worries, one was that I\u2019d need other chicks, and the other was just finding \u201cher\u201d. I had such a long shopping list by that point that it would be really hard for anyone to match up.<\/p>\n

In the years after 2009, I was really tuned in to finding that ideal girl. I had a pretty good idea of what she\u2019d be like:<\/p>\n