{"id":2546,"date":"2010-10-27T05:34:06","date_gmt":"2010-10-27T05:34:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.puatraining.com\/puablog\/?p=2546"},"modified":"2023-02-22T06:55:11","modified_gmt":"2023-02-22T06:55:11","slug":"demand-rule-text-game","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.puatraining.com\/demand-rule-text-game\/","title":{"rendered":"Don’t Demand: The first rule of text game"},"content":{"rendered":"

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How many times have you got that hot girl\u2019s number, thinking that it\u2019s ON only to get no reply from a girl to your first text? Like nada, the girl didn’t text back<\/a> after multiple attempts?<\/span><\/p>\n

In my first series of blog posts I’m going to give you some top tips on follow-up text game<\/a> to ensure that not only do you get the girl you want replying, but on a date, and into your bed. But that’s coming a little later, for this week I’m just going to focus on how you can get a reply from the girl. That’s right- just a reply.<\/p>\n

Most men make the fundamental error of going for a day two too soon, and get blown out (or simply not text back) because they’ve made too much of a demand <\/strong>from someone they’ve only just met.<\/p>\n

Take this text that a guy sent me last month (yes I do save them on my phone and then show them to everyone):<\/p>\n

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Expecting a girl to rock up in a bikini to a swimming pool is an extreme example of this, but so often guys will ask a woman out to dinner\/ to go away with them somewhere\/ or just devote a lot of their time to meeting them when really they barely know them.<\/p>\n

Think about the circumstances in which you got the number: did she seem nervous? Apprehensive? Reluctant? Often a girl may give you her number because she feels social pressure to do so. Numbers received in this way are what I like to call \u2018cold\u2019 numbers.<\/p>\n

The problem with a \u2018cold\u2019 number is that there may not have been enough time during the initial interaction to build sufficient rapport to get her out on a date<\/a> with you…. let alone\u00a0into a bikini.<\/p>\n

People have busy lives full of competing demands from work, friends, family, and now you texting them. If you\u2019ve just got a girl\u2019s number on the street you have to be realistic that you may be low on her priority list, and competing against a doctor\u2019s appointment, a work deadline, or a friend going through a break-up. Think carefully.<\/p>\n

Was there that spark of sexual energy when you got her number? Did you k-close or f-close her on your initial meeting? Has she text you<\/a>? Or did she ask for your number? If so I\u2019d probably classify this as a \u2018warm\u2019 interaction which I\u2019ll discuss in a later blog post- but right now I\u2019m going to focus on numbers that have been got when the woman isn\u2019t already nearly certain that she wants to see you again.<\/p>\n

If you just about got her number in a rush, if she seemed to hesitate when she gave it to you, or if there has been no significant sexual escalation<\/a> yet (such as a kiss) then you need to pay attention to this. You need to build more rapport- you need to engage with her and build up a text dialogue. Your first mission isn\u2019t to get her into bed at this stage; it\u2019s to get her to respond. If you go straight in and ask a girl for a date then it\u2019s a high demand to make off of someone who was uncertain about you.<\/p>\n

Say she receives this text from you straight away:<\/p>\n

\u201cHey babe, what are you up to tonight??xx\u201d<\/p>\n

She is going to panic and not reply. There are several reasons why:<\/p>\n

1. You’ve made a demand<\/strong> of her straight away. You\u2019ve gone right for the date, though you barely know her.<\/p>\n

2. Worst of all it\u2019s a non-specific<\/strong> date. This is scarier to a woman than a date that is clear, like meeting for a coffee\/ a drink. If she says she is free tonight then she will feel social pressure to agree to whatever \u2018date\u2019 you suggest. Problem is, at this stage she maybe so worried about what date you could suggest (\u2018Do I really want to go to dinner with that guy I met in the street yesterday?\u2019) that she is more likely to not respond, or make an excuse for why she might be busy (‘Maybe. But my friend and I were planning…’)<\/p>\n

As she doesn\u2019t want to commit to something she can\u2019t fulfill on, she won\u2019t reply.<\/p>\n

Here is another classic example of how a non-specific text can come across as scary to a girl:<\/p>\n

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I mean, this guy probably did just want to go for a walk, right? Maybe try and kiss me by the Thames. Or alternatively murder me, and throw me in the Thames. Unfortunately for him, I was so worried about the second option that I never replied again.\u00a0If he had tried to build rapport first, then gone for a far less demanding<\/strong> and more specific<\/strong> date the outcome could have been very different.<\/p>\n

Quick tip:<\/strong> You can use these text openers to send a girl<\/a> for the first message to get things started, if you can’t think of anything to say.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

You can do this by trying to show\u00a0some interest in her<\/a> generally as a person first. People don’t react well to being asked to be somewhere at a certain time if you barely know them.\u00a0Instead try and start that dialogue i.e:<\/p>\n

\u201cHey Lena, how\u2019s your crazy student life been this week? You were definitely the second most interesting person I spoke to yesterday btw… Luke from the 13.05 Train\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cHey Kate, I hope you out planked those novices you were queueing up with. I\u2019m treating myself to a post-gym protein bar, imagining it\u2019s a snickers. Marcus from Yoga”<\/p>\n

\u201cHey Rebecca, had to ask if you made that lecture today? I\u2019m proud I made it to work\/gym after you cruelly made me party at Tiger Tiger til 3am. Mike who drank a lot of tequila\u201d<\/p>\n

This style of messages are all designed to make it easy for her to reply. You do this in a similar way to how you would make good conversation<\/a>:<\/p>\n

1. Make some statements about yourself:<\/strong> give her a little information about your day\/ what you’ve done recently so that she gets to know you.<\/p>\n

2. Make this information about yourself relatable<\/strong>: most people have drunk too much, had a hectic day at work or done an activity like going to the gym\/ commuting. By making a reference to these things she will feel like you share a perspective on something, which will create rapport.<\/p>\n

3. If possible, tie this relatable statement to the circumstances under which you met: <\/strong>from your initial interaction figure out what she maybe interested in. For instance if you met her in a nightclub talk about what you were drinking\/ the music they were playing\/ your hangover, if you met her out shopping try what you brought\/ what it was for\/ style and fashion.\u00a0\u00a0This will hopefully work to remind her of the pleasant, friendly vibe of your initial interaction.<\/p>\n

4. An even more effective way of doing this is to tie your text to the conversation you shared with her when you last met<\/strong>: If she mentioned something to you in conversation like what she was up to that day, or if you shared a joke or some rapport over a certain topic recall it in the text. This is effectively jump starting the conversation again from where you last left it as you raced off to catch your bus, or stumbled out of a club at 3am.<\/p>\n

5. Also always keep the tone of the text friendly, light hearted and upbeat <\/strong>as texts can be easy to misconstrue negatively. Remember she can’t hear your tone of voice on a text and at this early stage in texting you don’t want to put her off by being at all negative. Remember you don\u2019t want her to feel confused, bemused, or pressurized when she receives a text from you. Give her some value: make her smile.<\/p>\n

6. Particularly if the number is \u2018cold\u2019 I\u2019d also advise texting her soon<\/strong>. Leave it two days before you make contact and rather than seeming blas\u00e9 she may have forgotten a lot of the positive feelings she would have received from the initial approach.<\/p>\n

7. If you have left it a while before you text her, you may also want to nickname<\/strong> yourself so that she remembers who you are. Nicknames are best created out of the circumstances of the initial interaction i.e. ‘Blue Umbrella Michael’, ‘Waterstones Ed’, ‘Tiger Tiger Andy’.<\/p>\n

Ok guys next time I am going to write about how to go for the day two now that you’ve got that text conversation flowing. In the future I’ll also hopefully be covering ping game, teasing and challenging via text. If there is any other area of text game you want to hear about then please leave a comment below for me to give you my best HB opinion on. Hopefully you’ll be hearing a lot more from me on text game, conversation skills and seduction in the future.<\/p>\n

Text gamer, conversationalist, and girl kisser<\/p>\n

Hayley Quinn X<\/p>\n

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