{"id":1460,"date":"2009-02-18T00:07:38","date_gmt":"2009-02-18T06:07:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.puatraining.com\/puablog\/?p=1460"},"modified":"2020-12-01T07:09:53","modified_gmt":"2020-12-01T07:09:53","slug":"sexual-escalation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.puatraining.com\/sexual-escalation\/","title":{"rendered":"Sexual Escalation – Getting a Woman Turned on within Seconds!"},"content":{"rendered":"

I found myself lying in bed with a girl last night, with her back to me as she’s playing with songs on her lap top,\u00a0and felt the familiar unpleasent feelings and thoughts.\u00a0 Should I go for it?\u00a0 Will she be down?\u00a0 Can I make it smooth? As well of course that sexual escalation<\/a> anxiety.\u00a0 Thankfully I was able to get around it all but it made me realize just how many guys would fail here, and just so close!\u00a0 That’s when I decided this topic seriously needs to be discussed.<\/p>\n

There are guys out there who are INCREDIBLE at getting women attracted to them and wanting to sleep with them, these men look like rockstars and on the surface seem like they get laid every other night.\u00a0 The sad fact is though that they don’t because they lack the final skillset, the one thing every guy at some point must master….the ability to sexually escalate.<\/p>\n

Like all of game there are two components to being able to sexually escalate<\/a>, outer game and inner game.\u00a0 The outer game is incredibly simple but the inner game is what causes 99% of the problems.\u00a0 I’ll list the key problems guys have with sexually escalating.<\/p>\n

The outer game part consists of only two things.<\/p>\n

1) Smoothly running up the kino escalation<\/a> ladder so that every new advance is comfortable and natural<\/p>\n

2) Pulling the trigger when the time is right<\/p>\n

With number one it’s just a continuation of the kino you’re building off the bat.\u00a0 If you’re doing solid game your kino should have been escalating naturally throughout the pick up anyways, if not then you have a serious sticking point that needs to be addressed from the initial pick up.\u00a0 The second part just means a strong kino jump and having the ability to go “cave man”.\u00a0 When we pull the trigger we forget about “gaming”, the game is done and now it’s time to go for what we made happen.<\/p>\n

Simple enough right?\u00a0 The format is pretty basic and down right easy, the real problems come from our heads.\u00a0 While the action of pulling the trigger is nothing, actually letting yourself do it is a whole different story.\u00a0 Here’s the three major inner game issues regarding sexual escalation and how you can get around each one.<\/p>\n

1) Fear of failing after getting so close<\/p>\n

When it’s time for end game and sexual escalation there’s been serious investment on your part for this girl.\u00a0 She doesn’t feel like just another set anymore since you had to work for her and spend time on her.\u00a0 After opening, hooking, building comfort, creating attraction, handling her friends, dealing with logistics, and getting either a number or kiss close, the last thing you want to do is mess it up now.\u00a0 The way to deal with this is by understanding two things.\u00a0 First she IS just another set and you have to be willing to fail just as if you were only opening.\u00a0 Even if it blows up in your face it doesn’t take away from the fact that you were able to get up to that point.\u00a0 By remembering this you’ll feel OK to fail and wont place so much value on the girl.\u00a0 Second make the mental shift from investing your time and energy into the girl to investing it into your game.\u00a0 By investing in the girl and the interaction you begin to put heavy emphasis on everything and begin fearing to mess up.\u00a0 By investing in developing your game you realize you HAVE to pull the trigger otherwise you’ll never learn and get better.\u00a0 Like Nike says “just do it”.<\/p>\n

2) Assume sex<\/p>\n

Think about this for a second.\u00a0 She’s in your bed and has shown obvious signs of attraction all night.\u00a0 I can almost guarentee she wants it to and it is true that women enjoy sex as much as men (if not more).\u00a0 Start thinking about what’s going through her mind, “Why wont he go for it already?”\u00a0“I gave him enough signs, I hope he mans up” “God I’m horny! He better make a move!”.\u00a0 Obviously you don’t know what’s going through her mind but the point is you assume it since it’s most likely true and will lead you to taking action that’s best for the pick up.\u00a0 Understand that women enjoy sex as much as men do (if not more) but because of their social conditioning can not allow themselves to be responsible for doing anything that can lead the interaction to sex.\u00a0 She also EXPECTS you to sexually escalate since you’re a man, it’s normal and not low value to want sex…in fact\u00a0if you don’t go for it she’s left to either think you don’t like her,\u00a0you’re a wimp, or you’re gay.\u00a0What this boils down to is that it’s on you, don’t let her down.<\/p>\n

3) Immersion<\/p>\n

To often are analytical game heads seriously get in the way at this stage.\u00a0 In the example I gave you about myself I remember clearly analyzing all the possible kino escalation moves I could do to try and make it smooth, but then remembered the idea of immersion and stopped all that.\u00a0 The idea is that it shouldn’t feel robotic or structured since it’d make it bad for you and probably feel creepy to the girl.\u00a0 Instead turn your mind off and let your body do what it’s naturally meant for.\u00a0 When we feel immersed we go on primal instinct and let the situation flow, allowing it to be as natural as possible and to fully enjoy it as well.\u00a0 To do this just relax yourself and notice the pleasant way she smells, how nice and smooth her skin feels.\u00a0 Allow yourself to fully enjoy the moment with her and fully accept your arousal and desires.\u00a0 Let your hands wander where they want as well as your lips.\u00a0 Basically stop worrying so much and simply enjoy yourself.<\/p>\n

If you don’t fear messing up since you understand it’s just another skillset to practice, assume it’s on and feel confident escalating, and allow yourself to be immersed and enjoying it so your head doesn’t interfere, there’s really no reason why you shouldn’t be able to sexually escalate.\u00a0 Go out there and pull the trigger!<\/p>\n

Hope this helps,<\/p>\n

Psych<\/p>\n

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