\nWhether she has any important life goals that she wants to complete<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
You may want to avoid deeper questions about marriage or children in your first conversation with a girl, but these could come later. Get a sense of where she wants to go in life. Talk about your own plans as well so that she learns about you.<\/p>\n
7) Conspiracy Theories<\/h3>\n
This is potentially a more dangerous topic to get onto, but you can learn a lot about the girl by asking her about any conspiracy theories she’s interested in. This doesn’t have to be political. Many people have quirky beliefs.<\/p>\n
Although conspiracy theories have a bad name, there are lots of harmless and interesting ones out there. Some may interest you. They might open opportunities to talk more on a subject later, once you’ve had time to do some research.<\/p>\n
Finding out what she believes can give you better insight into a girl, and gives her an opportunity to talk about ideas that interest her. Whether her thoughts relate to current affairs or something from decades ago, this can definitely be an interesting area to discuss.<\/p>\n
8) Pets and Animals<\/h3>\n
What about pets? Is she a cat person? A dog person? Does she have a guinea pig or a snake she loves? Furry friends are one of the best ways to get to know a girl, because who doesn’t love talking about their pet?<\/p>\n
You can ask about pets she has had in the past, or pets she’d love to get in the future. People keep all sorts of unique animals, so this can be a great opportunity to learn more about her.<\/p>\n
Even if she doesn’t have a pet, she’s likely to have a favorite animal. This is a great way to find out more about her without asking deeply personal questions. For a first date or early conversation, it can be one of the best topics to cover.<\/p>\n
9) Pet Peeves<\/h3>\n
Pet peeves can also be a great thing to bond over. Find out about her biggest turn off. Learn what really irritates her.<\/p>\n
It’s surprising how talking about something we dislike can help us find common ground and make it easier to understand each other. You don’t want to spend the whole conversation on negative topics, but sometimes, learning about the things the other person hates makes talking so much easier.<\/p>\n
Again, don’t be afraid to talk about the things you hate, too. This conversation topic will flow more smoothly if you’re both contributing. See if there is any overlap in the things you dislike. This can be an excellent way to demonstrate compatibility to her.<\/p>\n
10) Childhood Memories<\/h3>\n
Favorite childhood memories can be another fantastic area to talk about with a girl. If you want to understand more about her, asking about her past is a great idea. It will help you to understand what’s important to her and what she values.<\/p>\n
If you want to make this more specific, you could ask what the funniest thing that ever happened to her during her childhood was. Watch her body language to make sure she is enjoying the conversation, and be prepared to swap to another topic if you think she isn’t.<\/p>\n
Not every woman will want to talk about their childhood, but many will love this subject and will tell you lots of interesting stories from their past.<\/p>\n
11) Work<\/h3>\n
Work is one of the easiest topics to talk about with a girl. You can learn a lot about her by listening to her talk about what she does.<\/p>\n
Of course, this is a broad question and it won’t always lead to a very interesting conversation. If the girl doesn’t enjoy her job much, she may not be interested in talking about it.<\/p>\n
However, talking about work can be a great way to demonstrate that you are interested in her life. It’s also a neutral topic that’s ideal for a first or second date. Give it a try, and find something else if you hit a dead end.<\/p>\n
You can also ask what her dream job would be – which can give you even more insight into her character.<\/p>\n
12) Personal Struggles<\/h3>\n
Not everybody wants to talk about personal struggles, but it’s still worth considering this topic. A conversation with a girl can go much deeper if you show you are empathetic and willing to offer support and sympathy.<\/p>\n
Questions include things like:<\/p>\n
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What’s making your life more challenging right now?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Are you finding work a challenge?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Is anyone in your life being difficult?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
When you feel like you’re getting along well, personal difficulties are great things to talk about. It offers you both a chance to engage on a more intimate level, as you might with any of your other friends.<\/p>\n
It’s important to pay attention to the girl’s cues here, though. If she’s getting uncomfortable and would rather move on, find other topics to talk about. You want to give her an opening, but don’t force the issue.<\/p>\n
13) Music<\/h3>\n
Music is something that almost everybody can bond over. Ask things like:<\/p>\n
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Who is your favorite band?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What was the last concert you went to?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What’s your top music genre?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Which artists do you admire?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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If you could play any instrument, what would it be?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Do you have a favorite piece of music?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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How do you use music to make your life better?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Is there any music that you hate?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Which genre is your least favorite?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Almost everybody connects to music on an emotional level, so this is one of the best things to talk about. Find out what she loves to listen to.<\/p>\n
If you find a lot of overlap in your tastes, consider making a collaborative playlist so you can share good music with each other.<\/p>\n
14) Education<\/h3>\n
Asking about education is another easy topic for most people. Find out things like:<\/p>\n
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Where did she go to school?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What were her top subjects?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Did she have any particularly great teachers?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What inspired her about her school?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Which teachers did she hate?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What was her worst subject and why?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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If she could learn one skill, what would it be?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Would she have chosen a different career course if she’d had a different education?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
You can also ask about her personal goals when it comes to education, especially if she’s still studying. What excites her about learning?<\/p>\n
If you share favorite subjects, you’ll be able to talk in more detail about the intricacies. Don’t panic if you don’t, though. Just asking about the things she loves can be enough to keep the conversation moving.<\/p>\n
15) Movies<\/h3>\n
Asking about a girl’s favorite movie is another great way to get to know her in a short time period. A conversation about movies tends to flow easily, because you can talk about what you did and didn’t like about the film.<\/p>\n
If you enjoy the same sorts of movies, this can lead naturally into a discussion about movies you might like to see together. Don’t be afraid to tell the girl what your favorite movies are too, even if you don’t think she will enjoy them.<\/p>\n
If there’s something coming up that you’d like to see, ask her if she would enjoy seeing it with you.<\/p>\n
Films are a fantastic way to bond. They’re very neutral, and one of the easiest topics to talk about.<\/p>\n
16) Dreams And Goals<\/h3>\n
Finding out about a girl’s dreams is a great way to build on your relationship with her. It can help her to feel safe with you, and demonstrate that you are interested in her well-being. Ask her things like:<\/p>\n
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If you could be anything, what would you be?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What is the most important thing you want to do with your life?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What do you want to achieve?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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If you could live anywhere, where would you live?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What would you change about the world if you could?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What do you want people to remember you for when you’re gone?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What’s your biggest achievement in life so far?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
These questions are quite personal, so make sure you’re prepared to share things about your life dreams too.<\/p>\n
17) Her ideal date night<\/h3>\n
If you want a fun and flirty topic, try this one! What’s her top date night? This should cover things like:<\/p>\n
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Her favorite restaurants<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Her favorite activities<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Her food preferences<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Whether she prefers to stay in or go out<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What makes her feel appreciated<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What kind of atmosphere she enjoys<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
One of the great things about this conversation topic is that you can use this information to create the perfect future date.<\/p>\n
Get a few tips about what she loves, and use this to create a magical experience the next time you see her. This also demonstrates that you’re a great listener!<\/p>\n
18) Naughty Stories<\/h3>\n
If you want the conversation to turn a little more flirty, you might want to consider swapping some naughty stories with her. This is usually done best when you know the girl reasonably well, so you can judge whether she’ll welcome this approach.<\/p>\n
It’s not usually a good topic for your first interaction, but it’s an effective way to maintain the discussion as you get to know each other a little better.<\/p>\n
Naughty stories might involve talking about past relationships, or discussing things you’ve done together. Try to approach this subject with confidence, or there’s a risk that it will fall flat.<\/p>\n
You should also make sure the girl is comfortable throughout the conversation, and swap topics if she seems uneasy.<\/p>\n
19) Love<\/h3>\n
Love is such a key part of life, it’s definitely something that should be on your list of topics to cover. You might not want to get into it straight away, but don’t leave it out of your conversation entirely.<\/p>\n
Ask the girl what she thinks of love. Discuss how love has shaped her life. Listen to what it means to her. Questions you might ask include:<\/p>\n
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How important has love been in your life?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What makes you feel loved?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What makes you feel unloved?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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How do you demonstrate love?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What are you looking for in a partner?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
20) Vacation Bucket List<\/h3>\n
We briefly touched on this earlier, but a vacation bucket list can be a great thing to make together.<\/p>\n
If you want a written record of this, consider having text conversations where you both add your top destinations and activities to the list.<\/p>\n
One of the nicest things about this topic is that it creates a list of things for you to do together. This forms a sense of connection, and will demonstrate to the girl that you’re interested in her desires.<\/p>\n
Bucket lists are great fun. They are exciting and engaging, and pretty much everybody loves making them – so go for it!<\/p>\n
21) The Food\/Drinks<\/h3>\n
Food and drink are really important parts of everyday life, so this is another excellent topic to get onto. Great questions include:<\/p>\n
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What’s your favorite food?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What’s your favorite drink?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What do you like to cook?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Do you enjoy baking?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What kind of cuisine do you enjoy?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Do you enjoy spicy food?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What foods do you hate?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Are you allergic to anything?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Again, you should be filling the conversation out with answers of your own. If you just ask questions, you may make the girl feel self-conscious. Make sure you’re doing your share of the talking!<\/p>\n
22) Drugs and Alcohol<\/h3>\n
This topic won’t be for everybody. However, if you want to make the conversation interesting and learn more about the woman, this is a good one to cover. It will give you some insight into her personality, and help you judge whether you might be a good match.<\/p>\n
Find out how she feels about drugs and alcohol. Ask whether she uses any herself, and how often she drinks. Reciprocate with the same information.<\/p>\n
Remember that being honest is important. This isn’t a topic where you want to stretch the truth and later find out that causes problems.<\/p>\n
23) Guilty Pleasures<\/h3>\n
You can learn a lot about another person by listening to their guilty pleasures. This is also a great topic because it shows the woman that you recognize she’s human, and you’re interested in that.<\/p>\n
Ask her what her guilty pleasures are, and compare them with your own. These topics often have a bit of a stigma around them, so getting them out in the open is a great idea. It will help you get to know each other better.<\/p>\n
You might want to ask about:<\/p>\n
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Films<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Activities<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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TV shows<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Books<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Food combinations<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Smoking<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
These pleasures are often things you learn about later, so asking upfront can be a good idea!<\/p>\n
24) Life and the Universe<\/h3>\n
Some women really enjoy the big questions, and want to skip over the idle chatter about daily routine. For these girls, try to think of the big, meaningful questions.<\/p>\n
Some great options include:<\/p>\n
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What would you change about your life if you could?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What do you wish you had done more of in the past?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Do you think crying shows weakness?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What would you do if you could be free of judgment?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Why do you think we are here?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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What does joy look like?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
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Does war have any value?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
There are many other questions, and you can glean some key takeaways about what’s important if you ask these.<\/p>\n