Is it time to spice up your sex life? Interested in trying something new? These tips give you an idea of new moves to try with your partner, as well as ways you can have some fun on your own.
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15 Awesome Sex Tips for Men
Here’s all the good stuff: things you should be doing to step up your sex life and show your partner you’ve got it all.
1. Hold Hands (sound lame, but listen…)
It might seem boring to start a list of sex tips off with “hold hands,” but it’s a great place to start. You’re getting skin-to-skin contact with your partner, you’re making them feel cared for, and you seem like you’re taking things slow. Holding hands is the ultimate romantic move that will pay off in the long run, and you’ll be going much further much sooner.
2. Kiss (old school style)
Talk about taking it slow—from holding hands to kissing. It’s important to think about kissing as more than just shoving your tongue in her mouth; think about kissing her cheeks, her neck, her ears.
Once you do reach her lips and get some tongue action, be considerate with what your tongue’s doing. No one likes tongue darting in and out or aggressively wrestling—take it slow and follow her lead. Whatever she’s doing to you, she’ll like done to her.
3. Talk Dirty
Talking dirty is an excellent way to get your partner on the same page as you and to ease towards taking it further. Don’t just whip out something graphic and expect her to be enthusiastic about the idea—test the waters by making a sly comment like “You’re making me think dirty thoughts.”
If she asks follow-up questions, she’s probably into it, but you still need to play it safe and give her little crumbs of what you’re thinking. Once she fully engages in the dirty talk, then it’s on. But if she doesn’t care that you’re thinking naughty things, don’t force it on her. Let it go and try another time.
4. Explore Fantasies
Keep it flowing from the dirty talk, and explore your fantasies together. Ask your partner what she’s into. Be clear that there’s no judgment about anything she wants to experience, and make sure you don’t kink-shame her.
Scoffing at someone’s fantasy is a good way to end that opportunity. Just because she likes it doesn’t mean you have to do it, but giving her space to talk about it and explore it will turn her on and give you the green light.
5. Watch Porn Together
Men and women both agree that watching porn is a great way to get turned on. Watch something you’re both into and let your hands roam while you’re watching.
This is another way to explore fantasies together—if it’s something you’re not into, you can watch it play out on the screen instead of having to do it yourself. And if it is something you’re into, well, go wild.
6. Try Toys
There are tons of toys on the market, and it seems like each one does its own thing. One of the easiest to get into is a cock ring, which fits around the base of your penis. It strengthens your erection, helps you last longer, and makes your orgasm more intense. There are cock rings with vibrating parts that do double duty and please your partner simultaneously.
Butt plugs and anal beads are toys you can use with a partner or during masturbation. Both options will stimulate your prostate and make the sensitive nerve endings around your anus tingle, resulting in mind-blowing orgasms.
7. Stimulate Yourself
There are ways to stimulate yourself to make sex better for both you and your partner. The prostate is often called the “male G-spot,” so you can imagine how good it feels when you massage it. This gland is between your bladder and rectum, and you can use toys or fingers to hit it just right.
The perineum is the area between your balls and butt, and it’s packed with sensitive nerves. Rubbing this area when you’re masturbating or having sex can make your orgasm even better. Ask your partner to apply pressure during oral sex so you can lay back and enjoy it.
8. Switch Positions
We all get tired of the same ol’ thing, so make sure you switch positions during sex. Just because your tried and true works well for you doesn’t mean you (and your partner) won’t enjoy something different.
If you feel like you’ve done it all, find a book or website of “the best # positions” and start going through them all.
9. F**k Her Like you Mean it
Remember that giving her pleasure will only make sex that much better for you. Focus on what she wants and tease her with it so it’ll feel exponentially better when she gets it. When you use your tongue on her, lick around her clitoris to tease her.
Pay attention to what she likes. If she says, “Keep going,” don’t change what you’re doing or go faster; slow and steady wins the race.
10. Practice Edging
Practice edging when you masturbate. This is bringing yourself to the brink of orgasm, then stopping everything. You can do it several times before you let yourself orgasm. Edging will help you last longer when you’re having sex with a partner.
11. Exercise Together
Time to be wholesome again. Exercising together has obvious health benefits, but it also increases your heart rate, raises your dopamine levels, and reduces your anxiety—already putting you in a prime mood for some action.
As a bonus, your sweat has androstadienone, which is a testosterone derivative that arouses your partner when they smell it. Sounds like a perfect chance to get even more sweaty.
12. Stop Smoking
Another health tip that you might not think of in terms of sex. Smoking damages blood vessels, which can mess up the blood flow to your penis when you need it most. Smoking has also been proven to damage penile tissue, negatively impacting its elasticity and making it harder for the tissue to stretch. This affects both the size and strength of your erection.
13. Try Kegels
Kegels are an exercise that strengthens the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles of the pelvic floor. Kegels help you control your orgasms during sex, which will help with premature ejaculation. To test your PC muscles, try stopping and starting your urine flow next time you’re using the bathroom.
Working out your Kegels is as easy as standing up straight and trying to lift your testicles without using your hands—use only the PC muscles like you did when starting and stopping your urine. Tighten the PC muscles, hold them for ten, then release them. Regularly do this exercise in sets of ten to get maximum results.
14. Do Yoga
A major perk of yoga is the flexibility your body gains after practicing. It’s not hard to imagine how that can help your sex life. Yoga also helps you become more aware of your body, increases your strength, and develops your stamina. Again, easy to see how those will improve your sex life.
15. Boost Your Testosterone
The more testosterone you have in your bloodstream, the most powerful your orgasms are—and the more frequently you can have them. There are tons of ways to boost your testosterone levels naturally, like exercising and lifting weights. Getting plenty of vitamin D, either as a supplement or straight from the sun, also increases testosterone levels.
Watch what you eat because dieting or overeating can both disrupt your testosterone levels. Eat plenty of protein, carbs, and healthy fats. Make sure you get plenty of sleep, with five being the absolute minimum. A study has shown that testosterone levels rise 15% for every hour of sleep you get.
Don’t Make These Mistakes… EVER
Now that you know what you should do to optimize your sex life, let’s make sure you’re not making any of these rookie mistakes.
1. Don’t Start in the Bedroom
Who doesn’t like having sex on a big comfy bed? It’s a great spot, and it can still be your end zone, but try to start in other areas of the house. If you wait until you’re both in bed before you make a move, she might get bored with your pattern or legitimately be too tired already.
Surprise her in the shower and see how wet you can get together. Start making out in the kitchen after dinner and see if you can make it down the hall before the passion is too much. You might not even need to finish in the bed, with the kitchen table and all that counter space right there.
2. Don’t Get Stuck in a Rut
On a similar note to being focused on the bedroom: don’t get stuck in a rut in any way, sexually. Do you always whisper in her ear as you start kissing her? Do you have your routine that, face it, is the equivalent of “wham, bam, thank you, ma’am”? You might know what works for you and want to stick to it, but that doesn’t mean she feels the same way.
If you like what you like, consider just adding in a new move or two every time you have sex. This will keep both of you on your toes and seems exciting enough without reinventing the wheel.
Getting stuck in a rut also might mean that she feels it’s too easy to say no to you. If she knows what’s coming and is already bored at the thought, she’ll be more likely to dismiss you from the start. Being spontaneous means she won’t know what’s coming, and the sneak attack will arouse her in a way she hasn’t felt in a long time.
3. Don’t Rush It
This rule applies to foreplay and sex, which you already know based on teasing and edging tips. Taking things slow doesn’t have to be boring-it can heighten all the sensations and give you both more pleasure than you expected.
Some of the best foreplay happens when you pretend the genitals are off-limits. Tease your partner by focusing on their neck, ears, back, shoulders, and more. Try using objects other than fingers for touching, like a feather, a scarf, or even hot wax if you’re feeling adventurous.
The best thing about not rushing foreplay is how it builds up the anticipation, but it’s still fun to tease out that feeling instead of rushing into sex. And of course, not rushing into sex includes when you first meet someone. Instant gratification can be fun, but teasing out the chase will pay off bigger in the long run.
4. Don’t Focus on Her Clit
This seems a little contradictory since one of the tips was to lick her clitoris. The thing is, the clit is super sensitive, so too much attention can be painful and make your partner want to stop completely.
The clitoris extends out like a wishbone, so you can lick, massage, and apply pressure to those nerves and give her pleasure without directly stimulating her clitoris.
5. Don’t Ask if She Finished
This should be glaringly obvious, but it happens all the time, even if it slips out without you paying much attention. It seems like you’re trying to be thoughtful and make sure your partner got what they wanted, but it comes off as condescending and careless. It tells your partner that you got what you want, but you’re only asking them as an afterthought.
One way to flip this mistake into a tip is to ask them how they feel while you’re having sex. If they like what you’re doing, you can keep going and give them an orgasm. If they don’t like what you’re doing, you’ve opened a conversation where they can tell you what they might like instead, which will make the sex better for both of you.
Final Thoughts: Which one are you going to try?
While the tips above offer plenty of physical actions to try, it’s important to never forget about the mental and emotional aspects of sex, too. Connecting with your partner on a deep, intimate level also plays a key role in having awesome sex. Once you’ve established a sense of trust, and a mutual willingness to experiment, you can launch your sex life into the stratosphere!
