Comments on: 7 Kick-Ass Direct Openers That Break The Ice And Get To The Point

By: hangmat

hangmat — Thu, 24 Oct 2013 10:35:12 +0000

‘Were you just looking at my butt? No? Why not?’ Or try this one: ‘hey I was walking down the street, minding my own business, and absolutely no-thing was happening. But then, then…then I saw you walking by… Well there’s still nothing going on, but now we’re talking. What’s you’re name?’ Or try this one: ‘Hey! You look like the perfect girl to buy me a beer. So unless you want to prove otherwise, a Bud would be nice! Thank you.’ Or this is my personal favorite: ‘You know what keeps going through my mind? (look up like you’re thinking) …why haven’t you and me been talking before?… (or danced, or got drunk together, make up your own BS)

By: Randee

Randee — Mon, 30 Sep 2013 18:24:46 +0000

In night game or higher energy environment. You can’t use a direct opener when the girls in a group. You have to open the whole group or you become the creeper . If you get lucky and catch the girl solo then you can be more direct. I would recommend direct in day game in and low energy venues in night game .

By: sendy

sendy — Mon, 23 Sep 2013 05:42:22 +0000

In reply to Jamal. Talk to the guy if there s one to practice and to join the group. I don t have this problem anymore now with group of girls only.

By: Tim

Tim — Sun, 22 Sep 2013 22:15:29 +0000

In reply to Jamal. Ok what you do is just do it. Once you get her attenton turn to the group and say "I'm going to pull her aside and flirt with her for a minute is that ok?" Or something like that. Get her secluded from the group like 4 feet away so they can't hear you but they see the interaction. Put you and her in your own little world. Or you could talk to the group and be like "honestly the reason why I came is because your friend here is cute" it works, just do it

By: Tshepiso

Tshepiso — Sat, 21 Sep 2013 12:07:54 +0000

In reply to Robert. Wel, from my experience & understanding, normally in life, most of the thingz we talk about as humans are related to our experiences in life, the thingz we want to experience and other people experiences, therefore, all combined in a sentence lead to a convensation....so when we talk 2 our friends we dont usually ask each other questions but 70% we generalise, assume, factual, debate and state what we know and 30% I'd say we ask questions. So imagine when you meet a stranger, a guy or a girl and instead of conversing they had to ask you to many question, the obvious thought(answer) that would come to mind, is a defensive answer. The difference btween women and us guyz is that women are closed more often. if guyz were approached more offen like women than they would see the difference.

By: Robert

Robert — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 12:28:41 +0000

Well I’m slightly confused when you talk about always assuming instead of asking questions. But if let’s say you get it wrong few times in a row (which I think usually is the case) then isn’t that building up a NO-Latter ?

By: George

George — Sat, 29 Jun 2013 13:38:32 +0000

It works and it’s easy!!!! Thanks !

By: Lee Hadley-Austin

Lee Hadley-Austin — Tue, 16 Apr 2013 10:08:59 +0000

How about in student venues, where its quite high energy, girls are in big groups and have short attention spans. Would you suggest a similar direct opener in that environment?

By: Jamal

Jamal — Sat, 09 Feb 2013 05:45:04 +0000

The main problem I have is approaching her when she is with her friends. That is the only thing I need help with. Please reply

By: Olaf

Olaf — Sat, 12 Jan 2013 16:13:17 +0000

I think it may be okay to ask a girl whether she is single (more direct and not a question she gets asked very often), but you should never ask a girl if she has a boyfriend, because this is standard and just as lame as an age-old canned opener. Besides, many girls would say in the first few minutes “sorry, I have a boyfriend” anyway, even if it isn’t true, so they don’t have to speak to some random stranger. By asking her if she has a boyfriend, you play right into her cards and give her an opportunity to say yes. If you then drop any further interaction, you a) might miss out on a chance to get with that girl after all, and you show that you are not the persistent type (something that has been recommended on another blog around here), and b) you basically show right from the beginning that all you are after is just that – getting her to be your girlfriend, rather than just having fun with her and see where else this might be leading. So, asking a girl about a boyfriend is, in a way, just another form of neediness, which won’t get you anywhere.