Wondering about ways to spot if a girl is a slut—or even an outright gold diggers? It’s a controversial topic — but let’s be real, a lot of guys want to know if the girl they’re seeing is actually down for something casual or just playing games.
In today’s culture, confidence and independence are often confused with promiscuity, and social media only blurs the lines further. While there’s nothing wrong with a woman owning her sexuality, it’s important to know if you’re on the same page. This article breaks down the signs without the BS, so you can stop guessing and start reading the room.
These hoes aint loooyal!
Here are 21 easy ways you can tell if a woman is a slut…
21 Ways to Spot if a Girl is a Slut
1. She’s constantly posting pictures of herself on social media
If your girl is doing this…. wow.
While social media sites encourage narcissistic behavior in men and women, these sites attract sluts like garbage dumps attract buzzards. Sluts are sluts in part because they crave constant validation, and they use social media sites like Instagram and Snapchat to soak up attention and compliments from lonely men they don’t even know.
When you start dating a girl, be sure to give her social media profiles the once over. If they’re filled with nothing but selfies and pics of herself in low-cut clothing, traveling in exotic locales, or partying in bars or clubs, she’s likely a slut.
2. She has lots of platonic male friends
They’re just friends? Sure they are!
While there’s nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex, a girl who surrounds herself with an army of guy pals raises red flags — especially if they’re all orbiting around her like she’s the sun.
Watch for these signs:
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She constantly texts or calls her guy “friends” — even late at night.
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These guys shower her with compliments, but she insists it’s innocent.
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She keeps exes around “because they’re cool now.”
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She’s always got a backup plan (aka another dude on standby).
This kind of dynamic often signals a craving for constant validation. Some women use male attention like a power source — keeping guys around not for genuine friendship, but for compliments, attention, and emotional backup.
And when her current relationship hits a rough patch?
She’s already got a soft landing.
If she’s got more male orbiters than a Twitch streamer in a crop top, it’s not a great sign for long-term loyalty. Let her entertain her fan club — you’ve got better things to do.
3. She has a strained relationship with her dad and family
Hate her dad or entire family? Run bro….
It’s a cliché, but it’s the truth: women who have bad relationships with their fathers tend to become sluts, because they lack a strong masculine presence to tell them right from wrong. Many sluts were raised in broken homes, as their mothers lacked the ability to rein in their daughters’ worst impulses.
Additionally, even if a woman’s family is intact, if she still has a bad relationship with her father, you should be wary of her. If she doesn’t respect the most important man in her family, how can she possibly respect other men?
4. Tattoos, piercings, or unnatural hair color stand out
Yuck yuck and double yuck.
This one is a no-brainer, though not necessarily for the reasons you think. Tattoos and piercings (aside from earrings) indicate novelty-seeking, attention-seeking, a lack of future time orientation, and an unnatural comfort with having foreign objects pierce one’s skin: all signs of a slut. However, on a more serious level, tattoos and piercings indicate that a woman has narcissism or another cluster-B personality disorder.
In the HBO TV show Girls, Lena Dunham’s character claims in one episodes that she got tattoos because she began gaining weight in college and the tattoos were an attempt to assert control over her body.
Tattoos and piercings are an attempt to hide the body as it is and force people to only look at what the woman wants them to see, an indicator of potential psychological problems. See also: the shocking number of women who will get tattoos in order to be perpetually reminded of some traumatic event in their past (such as a relative dying).
As for girls who dye their hair like clowns, they too are known for sleeping around. There’s a reason why many prey animals, such as poisonous frogs, are brightly-colored: it’s a sign to would-be predators not to take a bite.
This is one of the major signs a woman is damaged goods.
5. She’s a smoker, an alcoholic, or otherwise drinks a lot
Why would she ruin her health like that?
Excessive drinking and smoking aren’t just bad habits. They often signal poor judgment, low self-control, and a taste for chaos.
Here’s why that matters:
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Alcohol kills boundaries. It opens the door to impulsive decisions she’d avoid when sober.
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Frequent blackouts are a warning sign. If she drinks to forget, you’ll be the one paying the price.
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Smoking shows risk tolerance. If she’s fine damaging her body, she may not think twice about risky flings either.
Not every girl who drinks or smokes is trouble. But if it’s a lifestyle instead of a one-off, you’re looking at a walking red flag.
If she parties hard every weekend, she’s not girlfriend material. She’s someone else’s problem waiting to happen.
6. She’s 40 or older and unmarried
You go girl. Show those titties.
At that age, most people have settled down. If she hasn’t, there’s usually a reason.
While not every woman wants a relationship, being over 40 and still actively playing the field is worth noting. If she’s single, highly active on dating apps, and constantly seeking attention, chances are she’s not looking to build anything serious.
Here’s what to look for:
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She talks about her “freedom” but never mentions long-term goals.
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Her social media screams for attention with party pics, thirst traps, and cryptic captions.
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She brags about having options but avoids commitment at all costs.
Some women ramp up the flirting and hookup culture later in life to maintain a sense of control or validation. It’s not about connection — it’s about staying relevant.
If she’s over 40 and chasing short-term flings, she’s not looking to build with you. She’s looking to relive something that’s already passed.
7. She uses drugs (illegal or otherwise)
Does she like drugs?
It’s not surprising that women who use cocaine, ecstasy, heroin, or other illegal drugs are loose, but legal drugs don’t get off the hook here, either. Record numbers of women are prescribed antidepressants or antipsychotics such as Zoloft and Klonopin in order to stave off mental illness and help them function on a day-to-day basis. These drugs cause mood alterations and memory problems, particularly when combined with alcohol and other substances.
Think about it this way: if a woman can’t manage her daily life without pills, how reliable can she be as a girlfriend or wife? These kinds of girls are headcases known for erratic behavior, including being slutty. Avoid them.
8. She suffers from mental illness
It’s not a phase. She’s nuts.
Statistics show that a shocking percentage of women in Western countries suffer from some kind of mental illness. For example, back in 2012, studies showed that 25 percent of American women were mentally ill. Keep in mind that these statistics include all women, so the rates of mental illness for women in their teens, twenties, or thirties are likely even higher. There have also been countless news articles over the past few years about how depression among women is skyrocketing.
Mentally unstable people are more likely to engage in erratic behavior, such as drug or alcohol abuse, suicide attempts, and sexual promiscuity. Getting involved with a mentally ill woman is a guarantee that your relationship will end in infidelity.
9. She is overweight or obese
Fat girls… really?
This may seem paradoxical, but women who are overweight are reported as having more sexual partners on average than women with a healthy body weight. This is because the same lack of impulse control that leads a woman to stuff her face until she blimps up also leads her to sleep around with men at the drop of a hat.
Contrary to popular wisdom, attractive and skinny women are more faithful and less likely to slut it up. While slumming it with a chubbier or less attractive girl than you’d like might seem like a good idea, you’re more likely to find a slut swimming in those blubbery waters.
10. She’s a feminist
Feminism today often means different things to different people — but in modern dating, the more extreme versions tend to clash with commitment.
Some women use feminism as a shield to justify behavior that would raise eyebrows in any relationship. If she constantly pushes ideas like “relationships are oppression” or mocks men who want loyalty, take it as a red flag.
Here’s what you might notice:
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She dismisses traditional dating roles but expects men to pay for everything.
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She defends sleeping around as empowerment but shames men for having standards.
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She treats monogamy like an outdated relic.
You can support equality without making your dating life a political battlefield. If she’s using ideology as a way to avoid accountability, don’t expect loyalty or long-term potential.
If everything turns into a gender debate, you’re not dating — you’re defending yourself. That’s not worth the headache.
11. She’s bisexual or into “alternative lifestyles.”
Sounds good in your head, but in reality it’s VERY bad.
It might sound exciting at first, but it usually comes with serious strings attached.
Women who openly identify as bisexual or explore alternative lifestyles like polyamory, kink, or open relationships often live by a different rulebook. That doesn’t make them bad people — but if you’re looking for exclusivity, you might be in for a rough ride.
What you need to know:
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Research shows bisexual women report more sexual partners than straight or lesbian women.
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They’re also more likely to have a high sex drive and engage in experimental behaviour.
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Open relationships and poly setups often tilt in favour of the woman — she’ll have more options, you’ll have more uncertainty.
If she rejects monogamy, brags about her “fluid” preferences, or pushes boundaries early on, it may be less about identity and more about avoiding commitment. These lifestyles can easily be used to mask disloyalty or justify impulsive choices.
If you’re after something steady, be cautious. A relationship built on blurred boundaries usually ends with one person feeling played.
12. She is addicted to her smartphone
She’s more addicted to her phone than YOU.
Most everyone has a smartphone these days, but there’s a fine line between using something because you need it and being addicted to it.
If your girl is constantly on her smartphone whenever she has a bit of free time, surfing through Instagram likes and playing games, it shows that she’s an attention junkie who is incapable of being alone with her own thoughts. Someone that addicted to attention is infinitely more likely to be a slut.
13. Fixated on celebs like Beyoncé and Ariana for empowerment
She’s your leader is she?
Mainstream culture encourages women to be bossy and slutty, with female role models like Miley Cyrus, Beyonce, and Ariana Grande singing songs of slut empowerment and celebrating promiscuity. Any woman who idolizes celebrities, celebrities like these in particular, will emulate their behavior, making them specimens you want to avoid.
14. She’s an athlete
When she’s this thicc… it’s not for your benefit dude.
Women who are seriously into sports or other athletics have higher testosterone than the average girl, which translates into more aggressiveness and a higher sex drive. Additionally, athletic women have easy access to male athletes, who are themselves highly desirable and have strong sex drives.
15. She sleeps with you on the first date
The biggest flag you will ever see.
You may think it’s flattering if a girl is willing to go home with you on the first date because it seems like you have good game, but beware: even if she says she “doesn’t usually do this,” don’t believe her. She’s done it before with numerous guys and you’re just another notch on her belt.
16. She’s a single mother
Single mom power! YAY!
Again, this is a no-brainer. Single mothers are single mothers because they lack impulse control and sleep with men without a thought as to the consequences. Beware, as she may try to ensnare you into a pregnancy or try to make you into a surrogate father for her little brat.
17. She travels often—especially to flirt-heavy spots like Italy
Her: I just want to travel and bang random hot guys baby (prolly)
Solo traveling is a major red flag for sluttiness, since international travel allows women to sleep around without worrying about ruining their reputations back home. Many girls will often sleep with men in exchange for free places to stay on CouchSurfing and other websites.
In particular, countries such as France or Italy that are romanticized by women are prime indicators of sluttiness, since these nations are perceived as being more sexually liberated than the supposedly stultifying U.S. or U.K.
Not only that, under no circumstances should you ever shack up with a woman who has backpacked through party locales like Thailand or Brazil. When you see that gross bun on top of a female backpacker’s head, you know that girl has slept with a dozen men without showering.
18. She’s involved in the arts scene (writer, musician, actress etc.)
She’s soooooo cool. Bleh
Artistically-inclined women may be able to woo you with their talent, but they’re also more likely to sleep around then the average girl. Not only that, as the various #MeToo scandals have shown, actresses and other women in the arts will often sleep their way to the top, having sex with producers and directors in order to secure roles or contracts.
19. She brings up the topic of sex first
Take it like a real man.
Sluts will often broach the topic of sex in a way that allows them to maintain plausible deniability. For example, if you’re on a date and your girl says, “I’m not sleeping with you tonight,” it means she’s thinking about sleeping with you; she vocalizes her desire not to in an attempt to talk herself out of what she really wants to do. And if a girl brings up topics like threesomes when you haven’t even kissed, head for the exits.
20. She’s comfortable with unprotected sex, particularly on the first date
Raw dog?? Hell nah!
If she doesn’t hesitate to go without protection — especially on the first date — that’s not confidence. That’s recklessness.
A woman who treats unprotected sex like it’s no big deal isn’t just ignoring basic health risks. She’s likely made a habit of impulsive choices with strangers, and that says a lot about how seriously she takes her body and boundaries.
Pay attention to these warning signs:
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She says she “doesn’t usually do this” but skips the condom anyway.
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She avoids any talk about STI testing or protection.
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She acts like using protection is a buzzkill or unnecessary.
It’s not about being judgmental. It’s about self-respect — hers and yours.
If she’s casual about unprotected sex with you, she’s probably done it before. Don’t gamble with your health just because she’s down for the moment.
21. She has a lot of gay friends
The more gay friends she has… the sluttier she is.
So-called “fag hags” tend to be promiscuous because they imitate the habits of their gay besties. The average gay man has a partner count that makes even the most experience straight male player look like an incel, and since people are the sum of who they hang out, women who hang out around gays will be racking up the notches as well. (Similarly, if a woman’s girlfriends are slutty, it means she’s almost certainly a slut).
Frequently Asked Questions about Ways to Spot if a Girl is a Slut
How to know if a girl is being sneaky?
A girl may be acting sneaky if she avoids direct answers, hides her phone, or changes her behavior suddenly. Look for inconsistent stories, vague explanations, or secretive body language.
How do you know a girl is on heat?
Humans don’t experience being “on heat” like animals do. But if a girl is sexually aroused or showing interest, she might flirt more, initiate touch, or give lingering eye contact — always respect her boundaries.
How to tell if a girl is into girls?
A girl might be into other girls if she openly talks about women she finds attractive, expresses interest in dating women, or mentions her sexuality. The best way to know is to ask respectfully and avoid assumptions.
How to identify hints from girls?
You can spot hints by paying attention to subtle cues like frequent eye contact, playful teasing, finding reasons to touch you, or texting you often. If she’s making an effort to stay connected, she’s probably interested.
How do you test a girl if they like you?
You can test if a girl likes you by pulling back your attention slightly and seeing if she reaches out. Or ask playful, direct questions like “Would you miss me if I disappeared for a week?”
What does it mean when a girl looks at your chest?
If a girl looks at your chest, she might be checking out your body, noticing your shirt, or just glancing without deeper meaning. Context matters — combine her look with body language to understand her intent.
Final Thoughts on Ways to Spot if a Girl is a Slut
If you’ve noticed a theme in this article, it’s that personality traits don’t exist in a vacuum: if a person behaves in a certain way in one area of their life, they’ll behave in similar ways in other areas. In the case of sluts, intemperate sexual behavior is usually accompanied by intemperate behavior in general, whether it’s drug or alcohol use, getting tattoos, overeating, or simply indulging in base pleasures all the time.
Similarly, sluts can be identified by the company they keep. Women who run with other sluts, gay men, artists, or athletes will regress to the slutty mean. As the saying goes, when a good kid hangs out with a bad kid, the bad kid rarely, if ever, becomes good: the good kid almost always becomes bad.
While one of the signs in this list doesn’t necessarily make a woman a raging slut, they’re demerits with regards to her character, and more than one of them should get you thinking twice. While women are free to behave however they want, so are men, and sluts have consistently been proven to be poor prospects for long-term relationships. If you want a roll in the hay, a slut is a good bet, but if you want a more substantive relationship, you’ll have to look elsewhere. Now that you know the ways to spot if a girl is a slut, be safe out there champ!
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Smartphone 100% if she is over 30.
If this is true. I suspect all wymyn are sluts. Maybe better to do signs she is not a slut?
I am in my 70s and I have seen alot of crap thru the years,but I can’t understand it when a young 24or25 year old woman does drugs,and winds up fucking abounch of big bigger dicks,and gets syphilis or gonorrhea,and winds up dead by the time she is 30.What is it that makes some one want to fit in so bad,that they would destroy thier own life,and the lives of thier family’s? I knew a young woman back years ago,when I was young and stupit.I was in to drinking booze,but she wanted drug’s of all kinds.She was only 23 yr old at the time,and I dated her on and off,but I lost touch with her for afew years,but when I got back in town,I run in to her,but she was not the same girl I knew before.She was blonde back before,but mow she had 3or4 colors in her hair and she would cuss like a sailor,and she did not care who she hurt,just so long as she got what she wanted.I dated her once when I got back,but I decided after that to avoid her after that,and I was glad that I did,because she was found dead in an old house with 3 black guys,and they had gotten hold of some bad meth, which killed them.Now they are most likely in the pits of HELL,suffering for all eternity.After that happened I decided to change my ways,before I left this earth,so i got right with GOD and fot off of the booze and cigarettes,and now,years later i’am doing great,but I feel sorry for all of the people out there in the world,going thru crapp that they don’t have to go thru,all they have to do is give thier life over to JESUS,and let him take care of you,and be happy.People for what ever reason,can’t except the truth,and the devil is haveing a field day stealing soil’s with lie’s.
This is hilarious! I’m assuming this article and entire site is a work of satire? Congratulations on a well crafted feature story which is simultaneously comedy gold for its masterful glimpse into the simpleton mind, and informative in its demonstration of a classic red flag to spot (and avoid) ignorant, threatened, misogynistic, angry douche bags; write an uninformed, tedious article that further insights unnecessary gender hate and makes the poor, hard done by incels the world over feel better about themselves!
Hmmm, could developing and using a criteria to categorise almost all women as sluts but exempting men who tick the same boxes from slut shame be why you can’t get a date or what you think you’re owed from women? Go on, call me a slut…
It needs the following correction…
6. SHE’S *25 OR OLDER AND UNMARRIED.
If she is still single at 25 she missed the boat, and yes, she will be out there slutting around.
I know a woman who fits with numbers 3, 4, 6, 8, 14, 16, 17, 18 – and they’re just the ones I know of!
I think my hunch may have substance..
a girl I met had a lot of these issues on the list, newly moved into the country, left her old home for good. Red flag? Turns out there were major Daddy-issues, she let me raw dog without protection on our second date. I felt special, but over time I found out she had sex also with someone two weeks before me, and a whole gang of men some months before that also without condom. She never tested herself. She also had sex with an immigrant and had a truckload of orbiters constantly texting her. No real female friends, never willing to commit with me even after a long time. And then the other day she told me she was in love with one of her male friends. How surprising. Just wait until he hears about all of her luggage.
Some of this stuff is valid. Some of it is plain incorrect. Alot of it could be better utilized if they were to make a better distinction between “slutty” and “sexually available” a woman pretty much must be sexually available If she’s currently seeking a new partner. Could be from divorce, betrayal, death etc. Knowing when her last relationship was and why it ended are big indicators of what a relationship will be like with her. Don’t forget to be weary of ” projecting” things where they say ” he used to cheat all the time ” actually means ” I cheated on him” because if she didn’t react the first second third or fourth times then why dump him for the 6th? Claiming to get cheated on alot= a cheater is talking 100%.
Chicks with low self esteem are a little easier to get yes. But there are fewer people going the same lengths to get them, so their mileage isn’t really any higher than a super hot chick. Except that super hot chicks will only be sleeping with guys that you don’t want to compete with.
If your reading this article then It means you are insecure. Work on fixing that within yourself before you go looking for someone to sleep with you because your so special, but wouldn’t sleep with anyone else.
That means you need to actually make yourself special. Get some exercise, be a good provider, be a good partner. Don’t forget to respect her freedoms and encourage having hobbies and interests. Keeping her stuck at home all day everyday so she doesn’t meet anyone to sleep with will backfire.
Man, thanks, I had some doubts confirmed by most of the above!
I almost let my fall in the wrong path.
I’ve actually found the opposite of #1 to be true – a girl who’s super active on social media is often a loner and uses it to live vicariously/make it seem like they’re more active than they are – whereas the girl who’s going out every weekened going home with guys makes sure to keep it off public channels.
The biggest tell is when a girl tries overly hard to give the appearance like she’s just a wholesome person without tons of a guy friends…..
Lmfao this dude has had quite the experience and is very observant 🤣
This guy actually knows the TRUTH and is expressing exactly what I have seen and live through with my own eyes (experiences). I’m 42 and wish I had read this when I was a teenager. It would have saved me from a lot of problems.
Dumbest shit Ive ever read
The realest sh*t you’ve ever heard. Deal with it.
This article is clearly written by someone that knows zilch about marriage, love, sex, or women. This fool should not be giving advice to anyone and should just date a religious broomstick with no personality, sex drive, or hobbies. What a tool.
I completely agree with you. Girls who travel alone to France or Italy are seeking sexually agresivo man. Really, I have travel alone a lot and this has never been my concern. Another thing is about being a single mother, I am a single mother and my ex husband left me for another woman because she was wealthy.There are a lot a girl who plays instruments, some of them are virgen.